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Hi @arbitrator - many years I was assigned AOT in interview and interrogation. A significant block was dedicated to micro expressions (nonverbal behavior & spontaneous expressive control) presented by the Behavioral Science Institute in SF. (I think that was their name at the time.) It was interesting stuff but it didn't hold a candle to what I learned from raising kids. Lol


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This was to Arb, but based on my training and experience if you ask your date a question and they respond by pushing a fire truck across the carpet while making a R-r-r-r sound...take a mental note. 🤔

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This was to Arb, but based on my training and experience if you ask your date a question and they respond by pushing a fire truck across the carpet while making a R-r-r-r sound...take a mental note. 🤔
Never ask directly ~ always third party ~ and then watch the reaction, more especially the avoidance of eye contact!

And while you may never get any kind of a direct admission, you'll get plenty of uncomfortable, nonverbal reactions!

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Never ask directly ~ always third party ~ and then watch the reaction, more especially the avoidance of eye contact!



And while you may never get any kind of a direct admission, you'll get plenty of uncomfortable, nonverbal reactions!


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