I am guessing she has always been self-centered, which probably explains why she is your ex. the best you can hope for is that she never bothers you again once the tap runs dry but i suspect she will turn to her daughter in the future and be a parasite to her. I just hope the lesson learned here is that your daughter realizes how selfish her mom is and breaks away form her.
That's a very accurate description of my exwife. She is already parasitizing her eldest daughter (from her first marriage) who continues to send her money to keep her out of the poor house.
My daughter is aware how selfish her mom is but I'm concerned she'll find a way to guilt her into supporting her when my daughter starts earning money (she was just hired for a part time job), and also from the funds I will be sending her directly after the last child support payment in April of next year.
If your ex doesn't work, how's she going to live once this $8K is gone?
I'm wondering the same thing. Some possibilities:
She has a degree, she can go back to work if she chooses, I'm guessing that when push comes to shove she'll get a job.
She'll continue to leech off her eldest daughter but I can't imagine she'd be able to get enough from her to live on.
She'll find another guy to live off of. However she has been unsuccessful in meeting anyone long term in the last 10 years since we split. Which is rather surprising because she's a good looking woman and she's had a lot of work done to maintain her appearance and she can really turn on the charm and keep up the facade and fool people that don't really know her.
She'll go completely broke and apply for welfare, at which point I'll get sued for more spousal maintenance. It's a long shot, and it only happens rarely but in my state judges retain jurisdiction to reinstate alimony if there is "extreme hardship" and to prevent her from "becoming a public charge"
I am not making any sort of argument. I am simply stating that what is really bothering you is the fact that you don't get to control how the money is spent.
Yes it bothers me that the money that is meant to be used for my children is being used by my ex to pay her own bills because she does not work, by her own choice. As far as trying to "control" her.. I disagree with the term "control" to describe my actions, because I'm not forcing her to do anything. I'd go with "coerce", "suggest", "manipulate", "offer", "advise" or "persuade".
If she has collected regular payments for ten years and now only has four remaining, why on earth would she agree to ANY term you placed on her acceptance?
She wouldn't. She will not agree to any terms I've placed on her acceptance of a lump sum support payment. She has been silent on the matter and I do not expect to hear from her regarding the matter. But it was worth a shot.