Your OP was all about you attempting to control how the money you are to send your ex is to be spent. As I said, if it had really concerned YOU then, YOU (not your daughter) would have acted sooner.
As I said, I DID act sooner- a few short months after my ex and my daughter made their respective moves.
Of course at that time, you were told it was pointless, but now! Now, you imagine you have some leverage!
My thinking was that my ex just might find the decency to respond to my daughters need for a vehicle but I wouldn't consider that "leverage" nor would I consider my actions an attempt to "control" my exwife but we've been down this road already.
And by God things are going to happen how you want them to happen! Except that you don't have any leverage and don't understand it.
I understand that I have no leverage and nothing is going to happen. I understand it, s why I deleted my ex's contact information from my phone and blocked her number because I have no further need to ever speak with her again.
Now after reading your latest installment in this continuing saga, I am lead to believe you are getting played by your daughter as well. WTH are giving your 21 y/o daughter "the funds necessary to provide for her daily needs". She has a job, lives at her BFs and hasn't even bothered to get her license yet?
You may be right. My daughter may very well have re-established contact with me because she realizes the spigot of money flow is about to run dry unless she acts really friendly towards good old Dad. But you know what? I'm ok with it- to a point. She's my daughter, I want to take care of her.
You are incorrect on two of your facts which I appreciate you giving me the opportunity to clarify.
She lives in the dormitory, not at her boyfriend's and they have no plans to cohabitate any time soon. She is interested in moving into an apartment after the next College semester.
She was offered a job but she hasn't started yet. Since she'll have to walk about a mile when she's on campus during school, if she has not yet obtained a vehicle, I will be surprised if she lasts through the next blizzard. She isn't the type of person to "stay with it".
At which point what do I do? Continue to support her even though she quits her job?
I haven't thought that far ahead yet.