Re: The No-Kids Requirement
I love my son, but since I don't want him to get attached to guy before I've had a chance to get to know him, it would likely be several months before I introduced them. Add to that the fact that I'm often not free since I'm spending time with my son, and don't live the care-free, bar-hopping, manicured existence of a single gal, and a lot of guys would be put off. I think the reality is that most people, women or men, would like to think they aren't bothered by the person they're dating having kids. But when confronted with demanding schedules, and the realities of dating a single parent (less primping/gym time, less disposable income etc. etc.) they realize it's just not for them. And that's fine.
When you love your kids, you want the person you end up with to be kind to them, accept them, be a good role model, and all of that stuff. It's a lot of pressure if you don't have kids of your own. I can completely understand that some guys won't want to date me. I'm actually grateful if they include that in their profile, because we wouldn't be well-suited.
Don't think it's insulting, or any more insulting than them listing their other preferences. For example, I can finally admit to myself that I am just not attracted to men who are shorter than me. It might make me superficial, it might be cruel, but to my mind, it's crueler to start dating someone, then decide the attraction isn't there because you push aside your own preferences in favor of being the "good guy." Just as you can select height ranges on many dating sites, most put in a detail about "has kids" or "wants kids" and that way you can find someone who meets those criteria.
I see a lot of attractive guys, likewise, who in their profiles don't appear intelligent, are just looking for a hookup, or do drugs. I don't judge them for being/wanting those things, but those things aren't attractive to me so we wouldn't suit. I'm rambling. But...does that makes sense?