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post #31 of 35 (permalink) Old 12-09-2016, 04:14 PM
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Quite a number of women's dating profiles lists "no kids" as a requirement for a dating prospect. A reasonable requirement, but seems a bit rude and perhaps short-sighted to post up front.

Anyway, my question is for the ladies of TAM: do you ever encounter the same requirement listed up front by men in their dating profiles? Wonder if it's something men would not be able to get away with.
Why is it any more rude than men who post dating profiles with their kid(s) in the photo(tacky and just wrong) and start their profile with "my kid(s) is/are my entire world"????? Where in that do I feel I might be included? It's basically saying hey I'm a good dad, I value my kids and I'll try to fit u in as time allows... Maybe I don't want to be someone's afterthought or get scheduled in after homework and sports.

I think it's better for everybody to be upfront. I don't want to date a man with kids either...been there, done that, over it. And instead of the guy saying he's looking for LTR...right after saying how his kids are his whole world...he'd be better being honest like, I got two hours a week for you on Tuesdays and Thursdays.
Honesty is just easier and lets everyone weed thru the bull**** faster.

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Amen one potato two!! Yes exactly. I have done some online dating and I'm deleting all men with kids and especially those who say things like my kids will always come first they are my whole world etc. I believe in serious relationship taking the relationship as the first priority after the kids basic needs of course. But kids wants come after that of a spouse.
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Two hours on Tue and Thu? Half my kingdom for a woman who offers such terms!
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Quite a number of women's dating profiles lists "no kids" as a requirement for a dating prospect. A reasonable requirement, but seems a bit rude and perhaps short-sighted to post up front.

Anyway, my question is for the ladies of TAM: do you ever encounter the same requirement listed up front by men in their dating profiles? Wonder if it's something men would not be able to get away with.
I'm separated and not dating (in fact the very thought scares the crap out of me). But, I know a couple of things that I won't deal with and one is a man with kids younger than mine. I was (technically still am for a few more months) married but was a single parent because STBXH wasn't there. Physically, yes. Emotionally, nope. I love me kids, but I can't fathom raising toddlers, etc. anymore.
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Why is it any more rude than men who post dating profiles with their kid(s) in the photo(tacky and just wrong) and start their profile with "my kid(s) is/are my entire world"????? Where in that do I feel I might be included? It's basically saying hey I'm a good dad, I value my kids and I'll try to fit u in as time allows... Maybe I don't want to be someone's afterthought or get scheduled in after homework and sports.

I think it's better for everybody to be upfront. I don't want to date a man with kids either...been there, done that, over it. And instead of the guy saying he's looking for LTR...right after saying how his kids are his whole world...he'd be better being honest like, I got two hours a week for you on Tuesdays and Thursdays.
Honesty is just easier and lets everyone weed thru the bull**** faster.
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