Re: What am I doing
You all are much wiser and experienced than I am. And I hate to rain on someone's happiness but for what its worth...
this story reminds me eerily of the beginning of my relationship with my stbxh. I was 6 months out of a terrible relationship, but happy and doing generally well in life when I met my ex-husband. He was the polar opposite of my previous relationship. He seemed to know what he wanted and also seemed to know what I wanted. It was all so smooth that I would even say to him that all the goodness won't last once the "honeymoon period" is over. He would say - "Every woman deserves her fairytale and the girl I like definitely deserves to be treated like a princess" etc..etc.. The problem I ran into - now that i try to look back and analyze is that because things were so good for the first few months, when something uncomfortable happened - I let it slide thinking - no one in perfect and everyone is allowed slip ups. And before I knew it, we were married and these "slip ups" that I had been forgiving became more intense and more frequent.
I am sorry, I am likely jaded by my experience early on in life and therefore whenever I hear of that perfect beginning to romance, it makes me nervous.
I truly hope that your happiness lasts forever, that the man you are dating is not like the scumbag I married. But like someone else said - the only way to know character is when you encounter rough times in life and that requires time. Truth is - even good people falter, have bad days, say hurtful things, do hurtful things - but good people do more good things that make up for the bad. I don't have a good way of distinguishing between true slip-ups and possible red flags (things that aren't slam dunk- complete no no run away type). As a result I will likely be too harsh when someone does walk into my life but for now - too much goodness is almost a red flag in my books.
I hope your happiness continues but don't fall too hard until a good chunk of time has allowed you to determine unbiasedly.