Re: Memories of her haunt me
I regret not seeking counseling after my one significant break up 3 decades ago. I did not take it well. Definitely could have used some help getting unstuck.
I eventually sought counseling years later, and I suppose I still had some of that to let go of, though that was not the only motivator.
I don't recall a single insight any counselor gave me, but I benefited. It was the process of talking about it (and other things) and laying it to rest that yielded the benefits, best I can tell.
A book called "You Don't Have to Suffer" was relieving. I'd agree there is probably help from learning about grief. There surely are counselirs who specialize in grief and divorce. Psychologytoday.com has a good tool for finding counsrlors.
"We are only here briefly, and in this moment I want to allow myself joy." -- Amy, from Spike Jonze's "Her"