That's what I would want but I'm not convinced that it's out there. I guess that's mainly due to the fact I also chose very unwisely and would scared of doing the same thing again.
You know what? I don't know if it's out there. It might not be. Maybe I'll never get married again, and I'll be that weird old lady backpacking around the world by herself. And I'm OK with that, becuase I would be an awesome weird old lady, and I'd rather live life on my own terms and alone than be with the wrong person. But I still hope that person is out there for me. I'm not going to stop looking, and I'm not going to stop trying. And when I find it, I'm gonna marry it.
Listen, I chose unwisely the first time around. Very unwisely. And that part's on me. And I worked really hard to figure out why I chose that way the first time around, and learned what red flags to look for, to make sure that I don't make those same mistakes again. Even so, there's no guarantee. I might be as careful as I can be, get married a second time, and it could still crash and burn. If that happens, then I probably won't get married again! But the emotional and psychological benefits that can come from a committed, healthy relationship... I'm not going to close myself off from that possibility. I'm not going to limit myself and close myself off from living a complete life. That's like... breaking your right leg badly in a car accident, and you have to go through all this physical therapy to learn to walk again, and afterwards you say to yourself, I don't want that to happen again, so I'm going to get my right leg amputated so I can't drive a car, and therefore never get in a car accident again. That's totally illogical, right?
OK, so maybe if you have a long history of dating people who are bad for you, and if you continue to date the same type of people after you get divorced, ok, so maybe you KNOW that getting married again would be a really bad idea, because you simply can't help yourself from making bad decisions, because the bad decision bears in your head always win, then I would say, YES, BY ALL MEANS CUT OFF YOUR LEG. But if you consistently have a history of making phenomenally bad choices for yourself, then maybe whether of not you get married again isn't your biggest problem in life.