Join Date: Dec 2016
Location: Finger Lakes NY
Re: Is it ever ok to hide a pregnancy/child?
Based on the situation as you have described it, no. If he was physically abusive, then maybe yes. If the sex was non consensual maybe yes.
If he's as useless as you describe him to be, he'll probably decide he doesn't want anything to do with the child anyway, just like my deadbeat STBX who abandoned his child at 2 months old.
You and your baby deserve child support though.
Tell you what though. If you tell him about the pregnancy and he shows no interest in the baby, (or pushes you to have an abortion), seriously consider not putting his name on the birth certificate. It's a nightmare trying to do things without the approval of the absentee parent. If he pulls a disappearing act, you'll have one hell of a time doing things as basic as getting your child a passport if you want to visit Canada someday. BTDT. It's not fun. I had to go to court just to get my son a passport because I couldn't find my STBX to sign the necessary paperwork. And file for 100% legal and physical custody as soon after the birth as you possibly can.
The road goes ever ever on, down from the door where it began... JRR Tolkien