Its funny because SMART is at the top of my list. I simply cannot be with someone who is not above me in intelligence. Smart men are so sexy!
I agree!!! Smart is very important, but they also have to have a kind heart. Smart+arrogance is the WORST.
For those of you who have been on the thread for a long time, you remember Fireman! (For newer folks, he was a guy I dated in summer '14, the first guy I dated since the divorce.) He was smokin' hot and he was really sweet, but boy, was he dumb. Couldn't have a decent convo with him to save my life. He was fun for a little while, but I later realized that there was no way it could have worked long term. (He ghosted me after 6 or 7 weeks, so I never got the chance to make that determination.)
But speaking of the way some men react when they encounter a beautiful woman... on our first date, he was really quiet, and I didn't think he liked me at all. After a few drinks and a little food, he asked me if I would like to go get some ice cream, and then go for a walk. He made a comment about wanting to hold my hand and kiss me, but his hands were sticky... I responded, I didn't think you really liked me, you barely said anything for the first two hours! And he said, I was nervous! And I asked, why were you nervous, mr studly fireman? He replied, you're really pretty, of course I was nervous! It was a very sweet moment. I hope he finds a girl that appreciates him and can take care of him, even if he was a d!ck who ghosted me. (He had some other issues...)