Re: The Singles of TAM 2.0
Bahaha! This made me laugh. The guy I am seeing messaged me very late a couple of nights ago. He had been very bothered about something and wanted to clear the air. We were having dinner the other night (um, dinner he made for me, btw. At my house. Brought all the ingredients and took over my kitchen. <swoon>).
Anyway, we were just chatting about family and such, and I asked if he had told his family about me yet. He said no, and conversation moved on. Turns out, he started to feel badly, thinking that I would feel minimized or slighted by the fact that he hasn't mentioned me. And it bothered him enough to clear the air. I assured him that I only asked because I was curious and goodness, no... I didn't feel put out in the least. I'm a big girl. THAT won't be a thing that bothers me. Especially with a substantial age gap, let's take some time and figure this out before we start making a big deal about bringing people home to meet the family. I try to tell men that I am pretty low-maintenance. One of these days I'll get one of them to be honest enough with me to realize that I actually mean it.
Maybe it's this one, maybe not. But I still like that I am not running for cover, searching for reasons why I shouldn't hang out for a bit and see what happens. He's sweet, kind and honest. I want to let that be enough for now.
This is the younger guy, right? At some point, if a guy is keeping you a secret
from his friends and family (because maybe he has another girlfriend), then that's a problem. But if he's just waiting until things get more serious, or he's just very private, that's different. I know by this point, Real Estate's friends and [some] of his family are aware of my existence, but I've only met one or two friends. And I know I won't meet family unless he wants to make a serious commitment. I'm not a secret, he's just a very private person.
~Happily un-married since December 9, 2013~