Re: Do You Ever Regret Your Decision?
I regret marrying her, but not divorcing her. Despite her bait and switch regarding sex (plenty before marriage, almost none after), we lasted about 24 years - in retrospect that was 23 years too long. Oh well! Anyway, infidelity wasn't a factor in divorcing her, but I am certain she had at least an EA not long before I left. I no longer cared what she did, as I was preparing to leave anyway.
I did everything possible to fix the relationship and preserve the marriage, but she did not respond to anything, and the things she did try were only to provide rationalizations for her behavior (confirmed by various therapists we tried). So, no regrets, only tremendous relief at leaving that toxic stew, which quickly turned to joy at having freedom and options once again.
Love is an ideal thing; marriage is a real thing; a confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished. - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
CELIBACY IS NOT HEREDITARY.