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post #16 of 18 (permalink) Old 02-22-2017, 09:03 AM
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Re: Should I continue to read TAM

I get where you're coming from. I think that TAM can be very negative. I have learned a lot from TAM though and have definitely applied it to my relationship with my husband. My marriage, I believe, has gotten better and I truly think TAM is the reason for that. Now, will it stay better or continue to improve? That remains to be seen but at least I have some knowledge on how to handle certain situations/issues.

A lot of new posters are scared away pretty quickly. There was a post on another thread not too long ago that said something about people bullying betrayed spouses on here. Mainly because anything less than divorce is considered weak and the constant drum beat of that is tiring. I completely agree with that. There are so many posters that automatically start in on the "Divorce him/her" right away and never let up. On another thread, the OP flat out said that she didn't want advice but yet there were posters that just couldn't help themselves any ways.

I frequent the social forum here & there too. That always helps to balance out the negative vs positive.


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Re: Should I continue to read TAM

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I get where you're coming from. I think that TAM can be very negative. I have learned a lot from TAM though and have definitely applied it to my relationship with my husband. My marriage, I believe, has gotten better and I truly think TAM is the reason for that. Now, will it stay better or continue to improve? That remains to be seen but at least I have some knowledge on how to handle certain situations/issues.

A lot of new posters are scared away pretty quickly. There was a post on another thread not too long ago that said something about people bullying betrayed spouses on here. Mainly because anything less than divorce is considered weak and the constant drum beat of that is tiring. I completely agree with that. There are so many posters that automatically start in on the "Divorce him/her" right away and never let up. On another thread, the OP flat out said that she didn't want advice but yet there were posters that just couldn't help themselves any ways.

I frequent the social forum here & there too. That always helps to balance out the negative vs positive.
I agree. I remember that thread.

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Re: Should I continue to read TAM

Read your very first post/thread and pay attention to the responses that gave you good advice, even if you weren't ready to hear it at the time. I'm a believer of pay it forward, but I don't post nearly as often as I used to. So stepping back is healthy.

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