Thanks for the mention, @JohnA
. NoMoreTears4me, take a break. Don't worry about coming back until you're ready. Advice is welcomed here, regardless of where you're coming from.
I visit daily at times, other times it's weekly. I rarely post unless I feel that I have something of worth to say. JohnA shared a very good view with me - there are no bad posters, you learn from everyone even if it's what not to do, or what not to become. There's something to be learned in all the posts, and even more if you know their background and history to determine their posting 'style.'
I've spent a lot of time recently looking at threads that commentators have created, if only to learn where they are coming from.
You don't want to become jaded as you read a post. I'm guilty of a growing cynicism, and am working to combat that. Life is to short for crap like that... This place is a often a place of sharing pain. Too often that's all you take from the site, but it can also be a place where hope is shared. You can offer encouragement in rough patches. Many times, the OP just needs to hear an empathetic voice amidst a sea of damnation and anger. While there is truth in the damnation and anger posts, it needs to be sifted.
Each poster walks their own road. We can't possible know the entirety of an OP's situation, but can offer thoughtful responses. Always remember those responses are based on that particular poster's personal experience, and are not indicative of the site as a whole, nor do they necessarily represent the foreshadowing of what is to come for that OP. There are similarities, yes, but each situation presents a different number of variables that need to be taken into account for the endgame. I hope the endgame for each OP is a healthier, happier life.
I'm feeling introspective today, which accounts for the length and rather ambiguous post, but long story short please take a break if that is what's best for you. My understanding is the intent of this site is to provide help for recovery, whatever that means to you. If it's D, or R, or something else, you don't need to drown yourself in the worries.