Re: Divorced and Pregnant... Should I have XH in the delivery room?
A male perspective......
First, blessings on you and your unborn child!
Having the father in the room is a recent thing....generations of children were born with the fathers pacing in the waiting room and I would have to say (since my dad was a waiting room dad) if sitting on the other side of the door is going to interfere with your EX bonding with his child....then I would have to say he is a poor excuse of a man and a father.
My nieces child was born with her husband thousand miles away in Iraq (we tried a SKYPE hook-up but it didn’t work); he didn’t hold his son until he was a bit over seven months old…….this was four years ago and this young Marine is a wonderful dad, a father any mother would want for her child.
The birthing is an intimate moment for you and the birthday of your child, the men are just spectators, only allowed to work the scissors, an act that a kindergarten student could do…
You have too much to focus on, you don’t need the distraction, you certainly don’t need the aditional stress…this is about you…your baby needs his/her mommy at her focused best and anything that distracts from this should not be allowed. Yes, it may be considered selfish, but that’s OK….your being selfish for the baby’s sake.
I hope you have people in your life you can ask to support you in the delivery room.....people who you are comfortable with....only people who you are comfortable with without qualifications and hesitations and your ex-husband does not qualify.
Wish you the best!
Last edited by calif_hope; 01-04-2012 at 11:01 PM.