Re: Moving after divorce with a manipulative ex wife.
Your Ex is under no obligation to encourage the kids to speak to you. Your relationship with your children is your responsibility. Gone are the days when she makes a report to you-that's what spouses used to do.
You, Dad, must establish your own avenues of communication. The ex can't stop it, but unless you have a custody order that says she must place a call to you twice a week for the purposes of communicating with the children-she doesn't have to do anything.
And sleeping with new women on the first day, so soon after a divorce will do nothing for your path to healing. It will only lead to hook ups with empty bodies. I guess if that is all you want then have at it, but if you want an actual relationship with someone that is not the way to do it. You need to heal and grow from your prior marriage. What were the warning signs in your prior relationship that you ignored? Why did you do that? Have you properly handled your porn use?
In youth it was a way I had, to do my best to please, And change, with every passing lad to suit his theories.
But now I know the things I know, and do the things I do; And if you do not like me so, To hell, my love, with you! --Dorothy Parker