I was told to leave the house by the court. She has the right to be there because she is the main carer to the kids.
The house cannot be sold unless she is in agreement. She is not. Therefore she has to raise funds to buy my share. This agreement is in place until the youngest child is 18 years old. I am basically screwed unless she finds the cash.
Was there a stipulation in the agreement as to a time limit on when she has to either buy you out or sell the home? Pretty crappy barrister that left you hanging with a multi-year financial obligation like that.
I am trying to move on. I have dated 8 women in three weeks. I am doing everything I physically can to find someone special. It's the only way out as far as I can see. I have another date tonight and it will continue. Tinder is a wonderful thing but it's also so frustrating.
They say you should take at least a year for every 4-5 years of marriage to heal and figure out what happened in your marriage so you don't make the same mistakes again. Use the time for self reflection and being the best dad that you can. If you should find a partner now, you will most likely fall into a rebound relationship. Then you will spend all your time chasing after new woman instead of trying to work on yourself.
I can tell you from experience, it makes the process of healing take a lot longer and will make future relationships tough. You need to work through the anger and resentment and be happy with yourself. Otherwise you will most likely fall into the same patterns again. Yes, it sucks to be at your place alone when the kids are not around. But it is a hell of a lot better than being in another crappy relationship.
...her new boyfriend doesn't want her being friendly and is frustrated that I am still around. He wants to meet me to put my mind at ease so he can see my ex during the week when the kids are there. I have no intention of meeting him. I see it as an excercise to gloat that he has her now and I need to walk away.
You are under no obligation to meet him. However, you still are the father to your children and have the right to be there for them, so he can just get over it.
She says that by being nice she was giving me false hope that we would get back together. I now can only collect the kids from the front door and can't even go inside for a few minutes.
Look at this as an opportunity to not deal with your ex at all. She is correct and I can see it written all over your posts, you are still very much NOT over your ex. You need to disengage from her and focus on you and your kids. It is hard to get over a long term relationship, you can do this. I, and many others, have gone before you and gotten through the low points and emerged in a better place.
I am even contemplating walking away for a while as its affecting my health. I am going to a lawyer next week to see what my options are with the house. I need to cut all ties for everyones sakes.
Try to treat your involvement with your ex as a business transaction. Keep your emotions out of it, finish the deal, and go about your day. No discussion except about the kids. But do not walk away from your kids. Your ex will use it against you. Someone has to the be the rational one for your kids sake, make sure it is you.
Talk with your lawyer and see if there is any grey area in your agreement you can use to change things.