Re: Falling "IN LOVE" again
I really think some of the women here see this wrong. It isn't fear or disconnect it's just a complete change of priorities toward life.
I loved my wife more than anything. I gave her my all and sacrificed much that I wanted , and to some degree needed, so she could have all her wants. My warped thought was the more I give her the more she will love me and someday give back. Instead she cheated and left me.
Few years of self desctuctive pain and behavior lead me to counseling that truely saved my life. In that I learned my old life was over, the diligent, faithful and giving husband was dead and gone. My new life was whatever I wanted to make it so I did. My new life puts me and my kiddos at the top. I no longer sacrifice and I no longer come in 7th place in someone's heart just behind the dog. I have made me a priority. Living half a life? For the first time I am living a full and complete life where I get what I want, something I never had before.
Now I love my GF no doubts. I would hate to loose her but loss I have learned is just part of life. If she told me today she was moving on my first response would be I don't want you to go but if she did I already know I would be ok. I could date again and live single. I have no fear of it. Our relationship will last however long it is designed to last and that may be a day, decade or several. I don't know and don't dwell on it.