Re: Life events in your ex's family (but still yours, too...)
The visitation was yesterday. My son had to get back to college, so he went early with his dad and had some family time before things started. I got there, went through the line, and my son and I left after about a half hour. With the exception of my stepdaughter, everyone was very loving and kind and seemed genuinely happy that I was there. My sd said hello and acknowledged me, but that was it. The OW was there, but was wise enough to keep her distance from me. One person did ask me very kindly if it was awkward for me to be there. I thanked her for asking, looked around the room a little, and said no... not at all. I said they would always be my family.
I had a moment to spend with Grandpa, and was so grateful I went so that I could say goodbye to him.
The funeral is today. While I would have preferred to have been at that, I feel that yesterday went well. Most importantly, everyone was truly celebrating the peaceful end for a genuinely good man.