Life events in your ex's family (but still yours, too...)
When my ex and I split 2.5 years ago, his grandmother passed away just before we reached a point where he'd have to tell her. I moved out, and he started bringing the GF to family stuff. But didn't really tell his grandpa... other family members told me later that Grandpa just looked very confused at the appearance of this new woman, and the disappearance of me.
I have not seen most of my ex's family since we split, with the exception of his brothers and their wives a few times. Grandpa, my FIL, extended family... it's just been too hard, and emotional, and weird.
Grandpa passed away this morning. He was in his 90's, but still active and healthy, and it was not expected.
I've known this would happen at some point. I just hoped that Grandpa would live to be, oh, I don't know... 103 or so.
I will be at the funeral, but I will be somewhat alone. Yes, my son will be there, and my SIL and various other family members who I know still care about me. But my ex will be there, and so will my estranged stepdaughter. And there is a good chance that I will have to face the GF for the first time as well. But not attending is not an option.
I know there is some routine to this... so I know what to expect, which parts will be awkward no matter what, and when I can make a graceful exit. But it will be hard not to break down. I need to keep it in the forefront of my mind that it's about Grandpa... it's not about me, not about my ex, or the GF, or my SD. But it's going to be so very difficult.
How have some of you handled these events?