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post #16 of 32 (permalink) Old 04-05-2017, 08:23 AM
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No shirtless pics, no dead animals, cowboy hats or boots and no kids. Other than that, you should just put normal pics up.

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No shirtless pics, no dead animals, cowboy hats or boots and no kids. Other than that, you should just put normal pics up.
Honestly, I would much rather a man be honest about who he is in his dating profile. If you're a big hunter or fisherman, then show me that. If you regularly wear cowboy hats or boots, post pictures that include them. If you're seriously into fitness, show me that. It's much worse, in my opinion, to showcase yourself as someone you're not by only having generic staged photos. The goal should be to have your photos represent your real life. No one likes to be surprised by the reality of someone after getting an entirely different impression from their online dating profile. Best to keep things flattering and fun, but realistic as well.

Online dating is salesmanship, yes. But you're not going to be successful selling a Ford F-150 if you're showing prospective buyers pictures of an Audi A5, and vice versa. You might get lots of initial interest from people who want the Audi but they're going to quickly look elsewhere once they realize there's been false advertising. And meanwhile, you're missing out on all the people who might actually really want that Ford.

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Meetup groups were absolutely instrumental in helping me out of my funk........Highly recommend! One was a dance group at a wine bar. I was often the only man among a group of 13 women. I was never refused a dance and lost some weight 'cause I was a dancing fool......
Well, if you can actually dance (or play guitar), that's like fishing with dynamite. Back in the day, I had a roommate who was an excellent guitar player and singer, and I pointed this out to him. He, apparently, had not thought about this as a leg up since he's been into music since early childhood. "Oh yeah, you're right", he said, after a few seconds of collecting memories, "A few songs and the clothes come off."
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Well, if you can actually dance (or play guitar), that's like fishing with dynamite. Back in the day, I had a roommate who was an excellent guitar player and singer, and I pointed this out to him. He, apparently, had not thought about this as a leg up since he's been into music since early childhood. "Oh yeah, you're right", he said, after a few seconds of collecting memories, "A few songs and the clothes come off."
I would add, if you are a guy who can cook. Or woman for that matter. I'm objectively average-ish looking for my age, clumsy, not super smooth or flirty or seductive. However, I read a lot, am somewhat smart (on occasion), and can cook pretty well, and that always seems to go over nicely

There is some truth to the saying that the way to a man's (or woman's) heart is through his stomach. Take a cooking class! You only need to learn a couple of simple dishes to get started. Nothing fancy. Just the basics, done really well, with good ingredients.
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Hell go back to school and there's TEMPTATIONS galore!

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Honestly, I would much rather a man be honest about who he is in his dating profile.
On second thought, put up that shirtless pic of yourself wearing the cowboy hat and playing video games with all of your the kids!
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Hey, my H (separated, not D) has a shirtless photo on POF. And I still love him?
Loved it when Match paired me with my cheating ex wife. Hell, I wasn't even close to her "income range" she had on there.

I suggest you're putting far too much thought in the pictures, OP. Get a few in nice clothes and let it ride. It's your messages and how attractive you are that get the ladies' attn. They don't care about all your hobbies and sports.
Get as good of a picture of yourself as possible. That's all you are on OLD.
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I remember when Match tried to hook me up with the founder of the company where I was working at the time.
And my mom kept hounding on me to date him as well, since she knew he was single. He was an upstanding gentleman, but a little to "extreme sports" for me. Every week he'd come in with a story about how he nearly got killed doing something or other, and I saw the injuries and casts to prove it. Hopefully he found a daredevil woman.

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I would add, if you are a guy who can cook.
At least I got that going for me.
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Coming from a female POV (as I've seen many profiles since I've been back on the dating market) so I'll list my biggest pet peeves:

1) proper spelling and usage of grammar
2) don't be too lengthy or too short in your description
3) do not post shirtless selfies. In fact, just avoid self portraits altogether. 2-4 pictures should suffice (not grainy and rather recent - absolutely no photos of you with 3 women wrapped around your arms or with another woman, unless she's your aunt or grandma)
4) when emailing a woman, do not say "hi", "hello", "hey sexy....dear, hon, pretty, baby". It is the equivalent of cat-calling and it is better not to make any reference to her appearance. The ideal message is to send a 2-3 sentence message which indicates you've read her profile. She will know you did not copy and paste and it's not a generic canned opening message you could have sent to any woman.

Whatever you do, do not post photos of you in a gym. I know fitness is portrayed as a good thing, however, any photos of anyone in a gym immediately turns me off. I prefer a man who is more outdoorsy active (biking, hiking, golfing, playing soccer or a sport), not pumping weights. It gives off a shallow meat-head vibe especially those that state they go at least 4-5 times/week. Also, as already stated by Evinrude, no one cares about hobbies (at least they shouldn't put so much weight on it). IF you can play a musical instrument, that's fine to list, but it's not a requirement. I am not a fan of the extreme sports type either (bungee jumping, sky diving, marathons, triathlons etc). It gives off the vibe where you can't sit still and are always on the go seeking the next adrenaline rush.

If you do all this, you would probably be in the minority (which would make you stand out in the crowd).

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Here's some picture ideas you could take solo with a tripod that would be sure winners.

Pic #1: You standing in front of the open hood of your car, wrench in hand, wearing a wifebeater with a sooty smudge or two on it.

Pic #2: You kneeling down in front of your dog as you wrap a bandage around his paw.

Pic #3: You in front of a stove with a big pot of spaghetti sauce, wearing a chef's hat, and tasting the sauce with a wooden spoon.
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Coming from a female POV (as I've seen many profiles since I've been back on the dating market) so I'll list my biggest pet peeves:



1) proper spelling and usage of grammar

2) don't be too lengthy or too short in your description

3) do not post shirtless selfies. In fact, just avoid self portraits altogether. 2-4 pictures should suffice (not grainy and rather recent - absolutely no photos of you with 3 women wrapped around your arms or with another woman, unless she's your aunt or grandma)

4) when emailing a woman, do not say "hi", "hello", "hey sexy....dear, hon, pretty, baby". It is the equivalent of cat-calling and it is better not to make any reference to her appearance. The ideal message is to send a 2-3 sentence message which indicates you've read her profile. She will know you did not copy and paste and it's not a generic canned opening message you could have sent to any woman.



Whatever you do, do not post photos of you in a gym. I know fitness is portrayed as a good thing, however, any photos of anyone in a gym immediately turns me off. I prefer a man who is more outdoorsy active (biking, hiking, golfing, playing soccer or a sport), not pumping weights. It gives off a shallow meat-head vibe especially those that state they go at least 4-5 times/week. Also, as already stated by Evinrude, no one cares about hobbies (at least they shouldn't put so much weight on it). IF you can play a musical instrument, that's fine to list, but it's not a requirement. I am not a fan of the extreme sports type either (bungee jumping, sky diving, marathons, triathlons etc). It gives off the vibe where you can't sit still and are always on the go seeking the next adrenaline rush.



If you do all this, you would probably be in the minority (which would make you stand out in the crowd).



Hope that helps.


Well said. Agree 100%!!


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Here's some picture ideas you could take solo with a tripod that would be sure winners.



Pic #1: You standing in front of the open hood of your car, wrench in hand, wearing a wifebeater with a sooty smudge or two on it.



Pic #2: You kneeling down in front of your dog as you wrap a bandage around his paw.



Pic #3: You in front of a stove with a big pot of spaghetti sauce, wearing a chef's hat, and tasting the sauce with a wooden spoon.


Hahahaa! I'd hit that :-D


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I love this thread, and I'm honestly thinking about trying to get some good photos of myself for dating profiles. I rarely get into the photographs, so I'm going to actually try to get people to take pics with me in them (or selfies).

After that, I'm thinking of posting my pics here for critiques.

Is there any reason why this would be a bad idea?
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I've browsed some dating sites. Men and women's likes and dislikes may be different, but as a guy, I just prefer pictures of women in their everyday environment. I don't care for pictures:

-with pets. It says to me that they care a little more about pets than I do.

- that try to impress with vacation pictures or activities like skydiving

- with men without explanation. One can assume it's her brother, but if it doesn't say, one never knows. If it's their guy friend and they felt he was important enough to include, it's a little much for me.
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