internet dating pictures and activities
Ok so I know this is a little premature for where I am in the process. But, I've looked back through my photos and I'm not in hardly any of them. dad=family photographer lol. Anyway, I don't tend to do much of anything that isn't centered around my children, all the activities I enjoy are all kid friendly, well at least the ones I can afford are, and so I know it's going to take a lot of time to get a decent stock of photos of me to use when I jump back into dating. I have a few questions for those of you who have probably seen a bunch of mens profile photos. As I understand it from doing a decent bit of reading my goal is to get ok shots of myself doing stuff I enjoy so I can show I have hobbies, a life, am somewhat interesting, and can have fun ect.
Lets start with what I do in my spare time. hiking, volunteer through cub scouts as a den leader, random crap around the house or car, video games, play with the kids, drink beer and bbq. Also about to get back into four wheeling and I recently purchased a canoe. Lots of outdoors stuff, and of course video games are a solid cost effective hobby. pretty basic.
My problem is that obviously most every opportunity to get pictures of myself out doing anything involves kids, mine and sometimes a lot of other peoples, and for the scouting activities I'm in uniform or a tshirt that says our pack info on it.
thoughts on the possibility of kids (mine or other peoples) far enough the background to not be identifiable as who they are? I could potentially get some decent pics from people at scouting events, but no matter which direction you face theres kids in the background. And I am usually in a uniform shirt or at minimum a tshirt that has our pack info on it. Or a lot of time when I see pictures of adults at the scouting events the kids have their backs to the camera, as they are interacting with or listening to the adult leader.
thoughts on using photos of me with my kids and just cropping the image close on one side to sorta cut them out. I don't have any viable ones for this approach yet (yay for always holding a 2 year old.. thanks S2)
I don't have an account at a single dating site or app yet, and am not even looking to make one just yet, maybe soon though. I'm just thinking ahead after looking through my photos and realizing my last shot of me kid free and smiling was 10 years ago on my honeymoon. Unless you count an image here or there of me and the ex and those wont work lol.
I take terrible pictures, am horrible at smiling on command and when I do the smile isn' good. My for real smiles are ok, but my say cheese smile is garbage. I've never had that skill, and my overbite doesn't help me at all. So I am more or less just looking to start taking these pictures now so that when I want them I have a decent pool of pictures to work from.
Another concern I have is that if I use any pictures that have me doing scouting activities or show kids in the background I'll end up meeting women who have kids and are just looking for an active father figure and will enter into a relationship with that goal and not really looking someone for them to spend time with. That may have a bit to do with how me and the ex got together. She was lonely, I didn't hit it and quit it when I found out she had a kid, the kiddo loved me, and I loved the kid. I think she just shrugged and said ok I'll play along since he is willing to stay and no one else is. I'm not looking for that disaster again. If I meet someone and there's interest I want it to be their interest in me, not their interest in me with their kid.