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post #16 of 48 (permalink) Old 04-07-2017, 02:38 PM
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I am 5'4" - 5'5" somewhere there.
Not a problem. There are plenty of women who care more about a man's character than high height.

I'm 5'3". I've dated been who were 5' tall and men who were 6'4" and some in-between.

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for disclosure, I am at three months into my separation. And our divorce is probably a year or so out.
I would definitely wait till the divorce is final before you think of dating. Maybe even give it a year or so after that.We need that time to heal and reflect and get emotionally ready for another relationship. So many men in particular jump into a new relationship far too soon.
Use this time to be the best dad you can and get involved in things in your area.
If you have a faith then you will find dating sites for those of that faith. For example, I met my husband on a Christian dating site.

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Just sign up for dating and meetup sights and go meet as many people as you can. Some will stick and others won't but you won't be lonely long. Enjoy
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lost count of the number of profiles I encountered that said "Don't bother if you're at least 5'10".
Some days it seems like every other profile. Good time to put the device away and pick up a book.
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lost count of the number of profiles I encountered that said "Don't bother if you're at least 5'10".
Some days it seems like every other profile. Good time to put the device away and pick up a book.
This is really good advice. I pursued a career path I've always wanted to get into (IT) and did some reading and studying online. Five years later I'm a systems analyst making double what I was back then.

There's also something quite therapeutic about getting lost in a good book series.

If I wasn't so averse to having to deal with its bodily waste, I'd also consider investing in a pet. Never could quite make the leap, though.
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yeah... this time off from relationships, will be good for me... I can like you guys suggest, just relax and do my thing... I am almost getting excited about my impending divorce ... ( i really am)
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yeah... this time off from relationships, will be good for me... I can like you guys suggest, just relax and do my thing... I am almost getting excited about my impending divorce ... ( i really am)
Your freedom is a wonderful thing. I admit there are times when I still get upset or bummed out over what happened. That was over 2.5 years ago. Now I can stop those feelings from taking over my life by reminding myself of just how far I have come. Since my divorce, I have moved to an apartment located 125 miles from where I used to live, learned to be comfortable by myself, made new (and better) friends, tried to work for someone. Then I restarted my business when that didn't work out. Made my business way more successful than it had been because now I can do things my way. I have more money than I ever had at any point in my life, I make more money than I have ever made at any point in my life. I went into teaching, I became a realtor in addition to my own business, I am exploring my new found passion for Bourbon. I have had a number of relationships with different women. I have explored their minds and bodies. Some have worked out, some have failed. I have traveled to 35 states in the past 13 months, I am learning to play guitar, I have learned to ride a motorcycle. I am on my second bike and now I am looking for something even bigger. I bought a house. I am in the process of landscaping it and redoing the interior has been an on-going project. Longer range plans include a bathroom addition and continued landscaping, I am planning a trip on the motorcycle for later this year to Iowa and another to Kentucky, I want to study a foreign language and then travel to a foreign country that speaks that language.

In short I did what I could and I will do what I can and the greatest thing of all is that what I can and what I will do is only limited by me. I don't have to ask permission, seek approval, gain consent, change anything to make someone else happy. My life, my choice. The possibilities are only limited by my imagination.

I have expanded who I am, what I want, where I want to go. In some ways I embarrassed to say I was who I was and lived as I had lived.

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this is inspirational.. I hope I can follow through on my plans... I do plan to do things that I have always dreamt of. Now is the time to do it.



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Your freedom is a wonderful thing. I admit there are times when I still get upset or bummed out over what happened. That was over 2.5 years ago. Now I can stop those feelings from taking over my life by reminding myself of just how far I have come. Since my divorce, I have moved to an apartment located 125 miles from where I used to live, learned to be comfortable by myself, made new (and better) friends, tried to work for someone. Then I restarted my business when that didn't work out. Made my business way more successful than it had been because now I can do things my way. I have more money than I ever had at any point in my life, I make more money than I have ever made at any point in my life. I went into teaching, I became a realtor in addition to my own business, I am exploring my new found passion for Bourbon. I have had a number of relationships with different women. I have explored their minds and bodies. Some have worked out, some have failed. I have traveled to 35 states in the past 13 months, I am learning to play guitar, I have learned to ride a motorcycle. I am on my second bike and now I am looking for something even bigger. I bought a house. I am in the process of landscaping it and redoing the interior has been an on-going project. Longer range plans include a bathroom addition and continued landscaping, I am planning a trip on the motorcycle for later this year to Iowa and another to Kentucky, I want to study a foreign language and then travel to a foreign country that speaks that language.

In short I did what I could and I will do what I can and the greatest thing of all is that what I can and what I will do is only limited by me. I don't have to ask permission, seek approval, gain consent, change anything to make someone else happy. My life, my choice. The possibilities are only limited by my imagination.

I have expanded who I am, what I want, where I want to go. In some ways I embarrassed to say I was who I was and lived as I had lived.
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this is inspirational.. I hope I can follow through on my plans... I do plan to do things that I have always dreamt of. Now is the time to do it.
Stop hoping and do it. Change your dreams into successes.

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I have started , its a journey. I have taken a few small steps that have challenged my fears. I am going to climb a 14000 ft mountain.
I will go skydiving in a week. Actually made a few new friends.. and that helps a lot to boost my belief in self...
but I feel clouds following me , and I do them anyway... hopefully it will stick.


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I'm 5'8" and lost count of the number of profiles I encountered that said "Don't bother if you're at least 5'10"."
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Some days it seems like every other profile. Good time to put the device away and pick up a book.


I'm sorry to hear that.

Are the women requesting 5'10" or more, because they are perhaps at least 5'9" or so themselves? That might explain it.

If a woman is between 5'0" and 5'8"; [which is probably about 90% of the female population], I don't see the rationale for insisting on a man who is much taller than average.
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I have started , its a journey. I have taken a few small steps that have challenged my fears. I am going to climb a 14000 ft mountain.
I will go skydiving in a week. Actually made a few new friends.. and that helps a lot to boost my belief in self...
but I feel clouds following me , and I do them anyway... hopefully it will stick.
Cool. Keep on keeping on! I was just responding to your post that you were "hoping"! I am doing a little fake it til you make it schtick myself presently.

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You'll be fine!! Get on POF.com and have fun. You'll find lots of good looking (some a little crazy) women on there that just want sex, some that want to date but not be serious, and some looking for marriage. And it's free!

If you aren't already, hit the gym 5x a week. Get in the best shape of your life. Not just to make yourself more attracted to women (which it will), but more importantly to get healthy and have confidence. Hit the weights the hard, lift heavy. Be very light with the cardio, focus on muscle growth. Eat and drink very healthy, this is key. Do this for a couple months and you'll feel great about your future.
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Your freedom is a wonderful thing. I admit there are times when I still get upset or bummed out over what happened. That was over 2.5 years ago. Now I can stop those feelings from taking over my life by reminding myself of just how far I have come. Since my divorce, I have moved to an apartment located 125 miles from where I used to live, learned to be comfortable by myself, made new (and better) friends, tried to work for someone. Then I restarted my business when that didn't work out. Made my business way more successful than it had been because now I can do things my way. I have more money than I ever had at any point in my life, I make more money than I have ever made at any point in my life. I went into teaching, I became a realtor in addition to my own business, I am exploring my new found passion for Bourbon. I have had a number of relationships with different women. I have explored their minds and bodies. Some have worked out, some have failed. I have traveled to 35 states in the past 13 months, I am learning to play guitar, I have learned to ride a motorcycle. I am on my second bike and now I am looking for something even bigger. I bought a house. I am in the process of landscaping it and redoing the interior has been an on-going project. Longer range plans include a bathroom addition and continued landscaping, I am planning a trip on the motorcycle for later this year to Iowa and another to Kentucky, I want to study a foreign language and then travel to a foreign country that speaks that language.

In short I did what I could and I will do what I can and the greatest thing of all is that what I can and what I will do is only limited by me. I don't have to ask permission, seek approval, gain consent, change anything to make someone else happy. My life, my choice. The possibilities are only limited by my imagination.

I have expanded who I am, what I want, where I want to go. In some ways I embarrassed to say I was who I was and lived as I had lived.
so....? When are we going out on a date?

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so....? When are we going out on a date?
Next time I am in Narnia, we will close the place!

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