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Old 01-27-2012, 09:03 AM   #31 (permalink)
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Literally - all I saw on meetup were political groups. Guess it hasnt caught on here in my mid-sized midwest town.

The church I sometimes attend...the one divorced woman my age will hardly talk to me!!!

Is it wrong to move to a bigger church for "social" reasons?!?!?
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Wow! There are meetup groups here for just about everything you can imagine!! I would think that there would at least be a group for people who are divorced or who just like to go out to dinner. Maybe join a gym and go to a bigger church on the side. I'm thinking about trying to get a job at a bigger hospital so that I can meet more men. lol.
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Old 01-27-2012, 01:20 PM   #32 (permalink)
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Wow! There are meetup groups here for just about everything you can imagine!! I would think that there would at least be a group for people who are divorced or who just like to go out to dinner. Maybe join a gym and go to a bigger church on the side. I'm thinking about trying to get a job at a bigger hospital so that I can meet more men. lol.
My oldest daughter has actually asked that we find a bigger church - one with more than 2 other people in it's youth group!

Guess there's nothing stopping me from putting my own group out on meetup - is there?
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Old 01-28-2012, 09:12 AM   #33 (permalink)
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I'm actually feeling horribly down today. Had the kids spend the night last night, which was amazing. Now I'm depressed after dropping them off. I'm going through the divorce process, wife said she loves me but doesn't love me. I'm slowly getting over her, but what has me down is my current living situation. I went from a beautiful house to renting a room out of a college house. Come June I get to move in with my best friend who is also going through this. That will help. I just feel that I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel right now. I feel like I went from having this great life that we worked hard for the last 11 years, to now thinking I will never get any better. I hate the rollercoaster.
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My oldest daughter has actually asked that we find a bigger church - one with more than 2 other people in it's youth group!

Guess there's nothing stopping me from putting my own group out on meetup - is there?
When you search around your aread did you put a larger distance or did you limit yourself to your own specific zip code? Are there any groups that interest you that are maybe an hour or so away from you?.

You can always start your own single parents group as well. I am sure you are not the only parent like that in your area.
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I'm actually feeling horribly down today. Had the kids spend the night last night, which was amazing. Now I'm depressed after dropping them off. I'm going through the divorce process, wife said she loves me but doesn't love me. I'm slowly getting over her, but what has me down is my current living situation. I went from a beautiful house to renting a room out of a college house. Come June I get to move in with my best friend who is also going through this. That will help. I just feel that I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel right now. I feel like I went from having this great life that we worked hard for the last 11 years, to now thinking I will never get any better. I hate the rollercoaster.
Just the financial damage done by splitting everything up into two houses is enough - I think - to keep a lot of people hanging on in situations where they aren't happy.

We haven't got hit "too hard" - but vacations, college funds, replacing "My" 1999 Dodge Caravan, retirement, emergency savings - all reasonable things that were in reach are now afterthoughts.

I just hope most attractive 35-40 year old women aren't looking for a Sugar Daddy. If I ever date again - and show up in my 99 Family Truckster - I'm afraid they won't even open the door!
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When you search around your aread did you put a larger distance or did you limit yourself to your own specific zip code? Are there any groups that interest you that are maybe an hour or so away from you?.

You can always start your own single parents group as well. I am sure you are not the only parent like that in your area.
Definitely worth another shot. I may have just put in my zip code.

Or - maybe its time I start getting involved in Politics!!! Although I think people are more welcomed into political circles when they have more money to spare!!!

Again - pulling up in my 99 Dodge - they may shut out the lights and pretend the offices are closed!
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I'm actually feeling horribly down today. Had the kids spend the night last night, which was amazing. Now I'm depressed after dropping them off. I'm going through the divorce process, wife said she loves me but doesn't love me. I'm slowly getting over her, but what has me down is my current living situation. I went from a beautiful house to renting a room out of a college house. Come June I get to move in with my best friend who is also going through this. That will help. I just feel that I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel right now. I feel like I went from having this great life that we worked hard for the last 11 years, to now thinking I will never get any better. I hate the rollercoaster.
When you don't have the kids, get out of that house and go to the gym. Work out like a bandit and flirt with the ladies. Don't stay home.
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When you don't have the kids, get out of that house and go to the gym. Work out like a bandit and flirt with the ladies. Don't stay home.
The Gym...I remember that place!

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I was thinking about joining a gym (just to get out more), but I really like the workout routine I have at home. It's convenient, and it works! I may take a kickboxing or self defense class though. I'm thinking about taking up Spanish again too. It's all about getting out of the house. When I first moved out, it really really bothered me to have a weekend where I didn't have any plans. I just sat there and cried until the tear ducts were dried up. Now I don't mind quite as much, but it's been getting to me a lot recently. I get depressed, and it's hard to shake it sometimes. I'm lonely...bottom line. It sucks.
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I'm actually feeling horribly down today. Had the kids spend the night last night, which was amazing. Now I'm depressed after dropping them off. I'm going through the divorce process, wife said she loves me but doesn't love me. I'm slowly getting over her, but what has me down is my current living situation. I went from a beautiful house to renting a room out of a college house. Come June I get to move in with my best friend who is also going through this. That will help. I just feel that I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel right now. I feel like I went from having this great life that we worked hard for the last 11 years, to now thinking I will never get any better. I hate the rollercoaster.
I know how your feeling, I remodeled our house from top to bottom and now I have a room at my sisters house and the wife has the house, and get this, isn't paying the mortgage. She said she won't sell and will have it go into foreclosure. If I had the money and a job, I'd move back there to my house and she said she would leave and I'd live their instead. But I don't have a job or any money. Had to quit my job and move 750 miles away to have someplace to live. But that is another story for another time. She did want me to quit claim the house to her for $10. After all that work I did, and she'll either sell it then and make a little money and me nothing, or she'll live there and have a boyfriend live their with her and be doing it in our bedroom with her. Can't handle that thought process. Rather burn it down than let her have it. But don't want foreclosure either. AND she won't sell it and she is a Realtor. Go Figure.
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