So I've been checking out match.com and found a young lady that I would really like to contact. Perfect "match" on paper and it would be so much fun to go out with someone.
I made a profile but I can't bring myself to put my photo up. I guess there is just a stigma attached to these types of sites and I don't want people to see me on there.
if thats what you would like to do -go for it! nothing wrong with having some fun, my therapist is encouraging me to go out there, have some fun, and meet some people. i will be signing up the day after my divorce is final in 3 weeks- dont want a relationship right now just go out and have some fun. Posted via Mobile Device
It's highly unlikely that anyone you know will see you. Go out on a date and have some fun. And don't worry about your looks - focus on her and put your energy there.
So I've been checking out match.com and found a young lady that I would really like to contact. Perfect "match" on paper and it would be so much fun to go out with someone.
I made a profile but I can't bring myself to put my photo up. I guess there is just a stigma attached to these types of sites and I don't want people to see me on there.
That is stupid right, who cares?
Its stupid to worry about who cares about you being on a dating site.
It's not much better to think that some woman you see on a dating site is actually going to look anything like her picture.
The only reason they would see you is if they are on the site as well, which means they are in the same boat as you. If you don't put a picture up you are not going to have much of a chance of getting picked.
The only reason they would see you is if they are on the site as well, which means they are in the same boat as you. If you don't put a picture up you are not going to have much of a chance of getting picked.
Oh, I agree. As for the picture, I'm really just waiting till the D is final to make a move like that. Say what you will but I will honor my vows until a judge burns them to the ground
funny im doing the same thing , not until the divorce is final ive been completely faithful Posted via Mobile Device
Reassuring to know I'm not the only one with this thought. Sadly though, I don't have any idea when the D will even be filed at the moment as neither of us have the financial means to do so and it's already been a year of S.
I did the same thing in honoring my vows. But....Looking back now, I didn't do it for the vows, I did it because I was still emotionally invested in the exw. My exw broke the vows when she started her affair a year before we divorced. The marriage was dead when that happened, I just didn't know it.
I did the online dating for a while and dated a few ladies I met on there for a while. Dating sites really were not for me. I found the free sites were filled with some creepy people and the pay sites like match required me to spend money I don't have.
ALL of my dates and relationships over the past 3.5 years have been from Match.
There is a 'protocol' to operating on a dating site. So if you feel like you are a dating 'newb' then feel free to ask questions.
You must have picutures ... I emphasize the plural. I never, ever, respond to profiles without photographs. In the case of women, who certainly have far more at risk on a dating site than a man does ... I don't know of any, that will correspond without seeing a picture of who they are corresponding with.
One headshot, one full bodyshot, ideally a picture of you doing something that makes a statement about who you are ... that said, don't post a pic of you gutting a 6 point buck.
If you are not happy about the prospect of either, then I strongly urge you to do something about it. If you have no issues with your appearance but have no pictures, have a friend take a few.
And quite honestly? You will need thick skin. You WILL be rejected. It's just how it is.
Don't send Winks. Winks are for cowards, or guys simply fishing for ANY kind of response.
Send a quick and simple 'hello' email. Don't tell your story, don't say 'I think you're cute' or 'I liked your profile ...'.
Say something that indicates that you read the profile, and ask a question ... basically any question.
The question you ask, automatically injects the requirement of a response. Therefore ... if you don't get a response ... they are not interested. Cross them off the list.
Follow the rule of 3. Don't send just one 'hello' email. Identify at least 3 people to whom you would like to introduce yourself, or learn more about. Trust me on this.
What great advice! Now that is what I'm talking about.
To be clear, I've got zero problem w/ my appearance or anything like that. I just don't want to make that move until my D is final.
I will read and reread your post here when I make the move. I think that match is just a part of the world we live in today and I have zero ego problems with being on there. Thanks, what a great post.
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