So I've been cleaning out of the closet of some of the shirts, etc that the stbxw has gotten me over the last 11 years. I don't want those memories. I came across a box of love letters and cards she gave to me.
I was wondering what other people did with the mementos from their now defunct marriage?
I put everything in a cardboard box, taped it up really well and then shrink wrapped it. Then I took it up to my grandmothers house a few towns away and put it in the attic. One day, probably many years from now, I will be tasked with cleaning the house out and I will come across it again.
That will be an interesting day.
I saved some things for our daughter - the wedding album, photos of the three of us together as a family, and of her with her dad.
I got rid of all other photos of my husband and me, and tossed out his letters and cards. I also got rid of my wedding ring. I want no reminders of that man, and I am not a sentimental person who will regret tossing that stuff. I'm committed to closing the door.
chucked them all - I'm the least sentimental person in the world
I plan to sell the rings, there is one diamond necklace he bought me that I really like and is a bespoke piece from Hatton Garden. I'm d*ckering over what to do with that one
wedding photos - going
in fact I plan to erase him totally from my life - I've given myself a goal of the end of the year but might 'bring it forward'
While my kids were over for our weekend visit, we went through the pictures. I gave my kids all the pictures of them with their mother. I put them all in a shoebox. All the old letters got tossed. Still have to do something with my wedding band and her wedding band. Don't know why I waited so long. I think this thread inspired me to do something with that.
found a box of love letters from my ex wife, I burned them. All of that crap did'nt mean anything. Hell, she should've sent the engagement ring I paid 2500, could have bought a ak47 or a boat and motor.
I still have the "Family Portrait" we had taken a year ago up in the Living Room. There's also this curved glass picture frame that has some romantic BS about love etched on it with a pic of us on our wedding day that somehow ended up on top of the entertainment center.
I've read / heard that its kind of good to keep these things up - just for the kids. I really don't notice them much.
Plus - the glass frame thing - kind of pretty. Maybe I could just find a different pic to put in it. I have a Bill Cowher autographed picture somewhere...
And the Family Portrait - those things are expensive! Almost hate to take it down just because of what we paid! Aaaannnndddd....Ex had asked them to do some touch up work on her chin(s) that they forgot to do. She didn't like the pic so much!
Just need to remember to take these things down if I ever have company coming over...