proudwidaddy

Hey everyone...how long has it been since you have "been" with another person? How do you cope with the dry spell?

It's been about five months with me. I'm starting to go stir crazy. Before the split we were averaging 2-3x a week. Now nothing.

nice777guy

A solid 8 months here. After 17 months of something that "mostly" resembled a regular sex life!

2nd_t!me iz_best

7.5 months.
it sucks.

proudwidaddy

I know that the divorce will be done in a few months, I won't even do anything until the divorce is final. Then who knows how long.

Suzyque

I've lost count, but well over a year. Maybe two.

I became frantic, then angry, then desperate, then depressed. Short of going to a bar and picking someone up, I realized I wasn't going to "get any."

I have completely given up on being with someone again.

Jellybeans

Too got damn long. I am feeling antsy over here. Seriously, my libido is off the charts some days.

SRN

Its been about three months for me. Maybe I'm fortunate that my sex life during marriage was somewhat unfulfilling? I'm ancy, but it was fairly normal to go more than a month without it anyway. Mostly I just miss the kissing. Is that strange?

solitudeseeker

Pretty much exactly a year. We made the firm decision to end our marriage last May, but had stopped having sex the month before.

I'm coping just fine. Frankly don't care a rat's ass about sex any more. But I am post-menopausal, and, being a biologist, I feel that loss of libido after one is no longer fertile is quite normal.

proudwidaddy

Srn,
I'm with you I miss the kissing, and hugging so much. God my stbxw was great at that. Now some other giu has that, I hope the other guy is horrible in bed
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Jellybeans

Proud--stop focusing on the other guy so much.

Focus on this: one day you ARE going to hit the sheets with someone new (it's inevitable) and it's going to be oh so amazing.

Schwing!

It's a thought process I've developed that makes me very happy.

proudwidaddy

Jelly,
Are you hitting on me??? :-)

You are right, I need to make sure to stay Proud-centric

Jellybeans

Not hitting on you, just offering friendly advice from someone who's BTDT

And yes, be Proud-centric. It will make you feel better.

CLucas976

recently, since january or february.

before that? I went from June to January.

I had finally gotten to the shut off point where I was content without it, and now I'm raging and angry again. lol.

SRN

Ditto. She loved to hug me and cuddle. And because of that, the lack of sex never really bothered me (well, as much as that can't bother a man).

I hope you are right. I really do. I know I'm an attractive, intelligent man with a good job, car, home and have the ability to be very confident (not much of that lately). I'm just still reeling. 58 days from start to finish. I'm just in shock, I think.

bandit.45

A little over two months for me. Sucks!!

My wife and I were morning lovers, 3 times a week average.

I wake up some mornings now and I could chop down an oak tree with Bandit Jr.