AFEH

Another way of meeting a new partner is to start out with friendship in mind rather than romance. For me “dating” is a term full of “expectations” and possible rejections.

Maybe find something you’re Passionate about, something that in a way will come to define who you are and will be a lifetime interest, that you’ll become an expert in and will make you a very interesting person to be with.

Then look to meet and make friends with like minded people by joining clubs, participating in group activities at Do something, Learn something, Share something, Change something - Meetup and other such places.

Looking for friendship as opposed to getting a date is a totally different mindset. Look to see what their interests are and ask if you can join in if you feel it’s something you could develop and become passionate about. Then it’s not so much a dating experience but more of a bonding experience through shared interests.

OldGirl

Nice Guy - I was quoting the funny YouTube thing that Lon linked. Wasn't trying to be a jerk! Sorry

mr. blue

I agree, but I’m worried about the potential down side... I’m currently interested it taking it to another level (sex) with a “friend” - and she is too, but I’m finding myself being very hesitant because if things don’t work out, I risk losing a friend I like doing stuff with, and create drama in the circle of friends where we met.

remmons

Online dating has never really worked for me. The one time that it did we both ended up splitting apart anyway because we both had different paths to follow. I have tried the online dating thing many times, both free and as a paid subscriber. What I had gotten were mostly scammers hitting me up to "bail" them out of their "situation". Yes, I am being vague here as I am sure you can fill in the blanks as to what they are really doing.

I live in a small community, but where I live it is a booming community. We have oil and gas production going on, houses can't get built fast enough. There is a lot of potential here, but unfortunately the taste of money is strong here, so any single woman who is living a less than satisfying life are hitting up on these guys who rake in the dough. This is hurting my chances of landing a gal, well all except for the ones who a guy wouldn't give a second look at. I have met a few ladies in person, either through an acquaintance, or through my X, yes, I said X. But, these gals aren't really what I want.

There is this one though.....

AFEH

Well that sounds like a real crazy notion to me! Surely friendships outlast sex not working out? If indeed that’s what happens. And what does your notion mean anyway? That a wife/girlfriend can’t be a friend you have sex with?

Nothing ventured …..

mr. blue

^ Good points. I think divorce has left me a bit overly cautious.