Hi folks, first-time thread starter, long-time lurker...
Has anyone had their marriage ruined directly or indirectly due to dramatic changes in their partners physical appearance? I'm referring to positive changes in their looks.
My STBXW was always very beautiful. We started dating at the end of highschool, and got married at the end of college.
However, after 2 kids she gained a tremendous amount of weight. And she always had very crooked teeth (her parents were too cheap to get her braces when she was a kid). While she wasn't nearly as attractive as in college, I certainly loved her anyway.
Then things changed. In 2008 I was able to afford to get her braces as I wanted her to feel good about herself. She began dropping weight.
By 2010 she had gone from 200lbs (she is only 5'2") down to 115lbs. Her braces came off, and her teeth went from looking like an old graveyard to being perfectly straight...and thats when the problems started.
Now to be fair, we had an absolute
boatload of other issues in our marriage. But this new transformation of hers seemed to be the icing on the cake.
In addition to these new changes she also discovered something else (that only appeared seemingly with the weight loss). She appears VERY young, and even now at 35 yrs old still is routinely ID'd when purchasing tobacco/alcohol. Everyone who first meets her assumes she is only 19 or 20.
She began to dress much sexier (and 'youthful' for somone her age), wearing low-cut tight shirts/skin tight ripped jeans etc.
Soon, nary a day would go by when I would come home from work to hear some story from her about how she went to the store/picked the kids up from school/walked the dog etc without some yahoo hitting on her. And she lapped it up.
Problems for us began immediately as she soon began meeting other men and becoming fast friends with them...she seemed to absolutely love all the new attention she was getting, and if I didn't like it I could go fly a kite...
Which I did. All the way to the courthouse
Seemed ol' K-Train wasn't good enough for her anymore. With all the attention she was getting from much younger men (in some cases 10 years younger or more!) I was starting to look old and washed up at 36. And with every other issue we had (which I won't go into here as this post would be 3 pages long) this transformation sounded the death-knell to our marriage.
Anyone else experience something similiar in their relationship?