06-05-2012, 08:05 AM
Join Date: Jun 2011
| | Re: Just a statement; vent
Keko, I'm paying over $1200/month in child support. I haven't missed a payment and been paying since Jan 2011.
I guess I'm not interested in documenting the time I spend with my girls to try and reduce or take back money. That hopefully wasn't how I came accross. I was just kind of venting. My financial life is in the crapper. I've tried to figure it out but even a DMP is too expensive for me right now. So I have to pursue a different avenue I guess. Maybe a second job or sell my house and move in with the parents. I have 2 years left for support for my first child so in life terms two years is a short amount of time before the pressure is releived some.
On the birght side, last night was fun with my 16yr old even if it cost me 2 gallons of gas and $20 for a summer reading book that couldn't be found in the library or at half priced books. Driving to the book store we talked one on one. Yesterday was her last day of 10th grade. We got into a conversation about freindships and that somehow spiralled into a conversation about over-coming self improsed fears like shyness. I also got to talk to her about how the weekend when and the party where her mom and my GF were in attendance at the same time. She said she had a good time and enjoys spending time with my GF. That was something nice to hear.
Tonight it is off to two bball games with my 13yr old. These will be her first two games playing in the HS arena so somewhat of a big deal for her. At least I think a big deal. She pointed it out that her tema are freshman and they are going up against soph and juniors tonight.
I'm learning to talk to my kids in more of an advisory role which means I get to help them out with problems they are having. I tell them my take on the situation and try and give them an example of how I have dealt with something similar explaining the outcome of my choices and whether or not I liked the results. I kind of enjoy that actually. Discipline was never my strong suit. My oldest actaully posted on FB that she hated when her father talked reason with her and she agreed with me after the conversation and didn't get the 2yr gym membership that was on sale for only that day and she needed $200. LOL