My eldest daughter has moved in with me permanently after a huge argument with her mother which ended with. "Go live with your Father"
So being my daughter. She did. Red Button pushed. All systems stop.
This woman is about to lose her younger daughter too. She is staying tonight to see her sister. An extra night which will extend and extend...
The other teenager in my life [ex wife] could say was " i am so exhausted.."
Hmmm.
Anyway on the weekend my oldest and I swapped rooms. My 17 year old daughter has created a cool studio in my old room which was stupidly huge for me.
That day was madness. Starting at 9am and finishing at 7pm with the place almost tidy and roast dinner ready to be served
I really was exhausted.
I hear a knock at the door.
Opening it and there is a beer! Attached to my GF.
Walks in
Serves Dinner.
Pours beer
Eat.. she says.
Then washes all the dishes. [That dreaded last job]
Then kisses me and tells me to enjoy a few hours with my girls and leaves.Damn her..
She is one in a million and I am so damned lucky to have met her so soon. She apparently is feeling pretty much the same.
Another thing which I had not mentioned about her was that although in my eyes amazing and sexy she was very overweight. [antidepressants for previous 7 years] She has, with no effort at all lost 30kg and is still dropping.
I am about to have one hot GF!
Our diet? Sex.. Lots and lots of awesome sex. You should see my 6 pack,
well 4 1/2 pack...
oh okay. 4 pack.
There is life after [only a week or so to go now..] Divorce.
There comes a point when you are in a relationship, and something utterly benign, normal, and thoughtful occurs on behalf of your partner and as a result of where you have been, in a previous unhealthy relationship; it seems utterly staggering and amazing that healthy relationships just work that way ...
I was hoping you would ask that Shoo.. You really,really need to get out there.
I read an article recently where women were saying that they were staggered by the speed at which there former partners moved on. The explanation was interesting.
Guys do not have the support structures that women do when the marriage goes to sh1t and are left utterly alone. The bottom line is that the more heart broken he is the faster he will get a GF to share his emotions with.
ONLINE. Where else are you going to meet anyone?
You work. Look after your kid, watch TV /youtube and go to bed. You could I suppose drag yourself to the bar on a Saturday night and realise that you are not in your 20's anymore. Gets a bit depressing though.
1. meetup.com.
Join it. It is great. You turn up at an event and a load of strangers turn up too. I was in a walking group. Two birds, one stone. If there are less than 8 people going don't go. In meetup land. 50% won't turn up on the day and 4 is too small a group. It gets awkward. Some of my walking days had over a 100 people there. all ages. Very cool.
2. Dating sites.
LOTS of women looking for a guy like you!
There comes a point when you are in a relationship, and something utterly benign, normal, and thoughtful occurs on behalf of your partner and as a result of where you have been, in a previous unhealthy relationship; it seems utterly staggering and amazing that healthy relationships just work that way ...
It is.. The thing is she just looks at me like I am mad when I react like she did something amazing.
" This is just normal! I'm just normal! You do stuff like this for me all the time and don't even think about it" Shakes her head
I fcking hate online dating because apparently there are a few thousand attractive women looking for a guy not like me. Seriously I am completely stumped by this, I am nice but not a wuss, I look good, I have a lot of my sh!t together, and I seem insecure but that is because I had my heart ripped out last year and am just lonely.
Shoo, if online dating doesn't work for you, realize that there are a ton of other guys just like us that don't seem very good at marketing ourselves. Honestly I am going to learn to be content having my own hands to love and doing my own stuff. And when the good ones come to us, you and I just gotta tell them to stick around.
Shoo, if online dating doesn't work for you, realize that there are a ton of other guys just like us that don't seem very good at marketing ourselves. .
I have experimented with many different types of profile descriptions. Some in depth. Some revealing emotion and some just plain stupid. I got interested in how those other guys seemed to get responses and dates..
OK... Dating site 101 for guys who hate dating sites.
Do NOT market yourself.
You simply put the bare minimum on your page. You tell them bugger all about your interests.
Don't mention being friends with your partner.
Do not mention walking hand in hand on the beach or curling up together on the couch watching a DVD.
Do not mention anything that a woman might actually say they want in there profiles in fact.
This next bit is important..
Write this.
"Was in a relationship for X years. All done now."
" If your married or in a relationship don't bother contacting me."
Photo.
One photo and it is private.
Who to contact..
If anyone says. "Don't bring baggage in" it means they have enough for you as well and your life is of no interest.
This may look remarkably like a 180 in action. That is exactly what it is. Women are attracted to strong confident men. By saying nothing and setting boundaries you will become instantly attractive.
Of course when you get to go on the date you can turn on the considerate side. This is actually you, as long as you keep in mind what you want then all will be good. You may just end up having coffee, but hey, that is nice too.
I have experimented with many different types of profile descriptions. Some in depth. Some revealing emotion and some just plain stupid. I got interested in how those other guys seemed to get responses and dates..
OK... Dating site 101 for guys who hate dating sites.
Do NOT market yourself.
You simply put the bare minimum on your page. You tell them bugger all about your interests.
Don't mention being friends with your partner.
Do not mention walking hand in hand on the beach or curling up together on the couch watching a DVD.
Do not mention anything that a woman might actually say they want in there profiles in fact.
This next bit is important..
Write this.
"Was in a relationship for X years. All done now."
" If your married or in a relationship don't bother contacting me."
Photo.
One photo and it is private.
Who to contact..
If anyone says. "Don't bring baggage in" it means they have enough for you as well and your life is of no interest.
This may look remarkably like a 180 in action. That is exactly what it is. Women are attracted to strong confident men. By saying nothing and setting boundaries you will become instantly attractive.
Of course when you get to go on the date you can turn on the considerate side. This is actually you, as long as you keep in mind what you want then all will be good. You may just end up having coffee, but hey, that is nice too.
As a woman who has recently joined online dating, the one thing i disagree with on your post is the picture- i will not even consider a guy if he doesn't have pics up-im not syaying you need a million, that can be kinda turn off too, but 3 or so good pics ( not taken in your bathroom mirror) can be quite good.
As a woman who has recently joined online dating, the one thing i disagree with on your post is the picture- i will not even consider a guy if he doesn't have pics up-im not syaying you need a million, that can be kinda turn off too, but 3 or so good pics ( not taken in your bathroom mirror) can be quite good.
I started out online only looking at photos of women with pics... but I will say that of the two first dates I actually managed to land neither had a pic... And I was the first one to initiate contact.
So right now, unsure, you may only go with ones with pics... but how many of those guys would you filter out based on physical appearance? (I guarantee it is all of the ones that you don't actually contact) The guy might be a real catch, and even quite physically attractive but the photo gives away other information that may or may not be true.
When you get tired of having little success landing a good one, you will find yourself going back to take a look at the ones without pics...however it seems to work that its the men that break the ice first, and so hiding the pics is moot.
So I understand Ing's point, a photo makes or breaks it, and EVERYONE is on their with very high expectations, and for me (even though I am somewhat confident in my looks) there is always some better looking guy with a pic so I automatically lose the competition every time (except of course for the physically unnatractive women who have also been couragous enough to step up and get rejected before anyone even knows a thing about them).
As a woman who has recently joined online dating, the one thing i disagree with on your post is the picture- i will not even consider a guy if he doesn't have pics up-im not syaying you need a million, that can be kinda turn off too, but 3 or so good pics ( not taken in your bathroom mirror) can be quite good.
Oh you do have a picture but it is a private picture that you give access to when you contact. I was being a little tongue in cheek.
i just had a huge thing typed out to respond to lon, then i accidentally pressed the back button on my phone and im not retyping it. needless to say i do agree looks are not everything, its just makes me feel like someone is hiding something when they have no pic or private pic up Posted via Mobile Device
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So there you go.. 
