nice777guy

Another call tonight from my daughter, screaming bloody murder and claiming Mom called her a b I t c h and blew smoke in her face...

How exactly does this even count as divorce?

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Paradise

Nice, I think it is about time you sat the ex and daughter down together at the same time and put all the cards on the table. Doesn't sound like she can handle your daughter right now and it is only going to escalate. Doesn't sound like you are happy being stuck in the middle of this mess, either. You can continue to go down this route or be prepared to do something about it.

I don't know everything so it's easy for me to say what I would do but honestly, it might be time to just tell them that she's moving in with you. At least long enough to defuse this situation. Just make sure your daughter understands the rules in your house up front about what will be expected of her.

I could not handle this. You are absorbing your ex wife's drama. Don't you want to get away from that?

nice777guy

Thx.

Was really hoping to just get through the summer.

Called my Employee Assistance Program - thinking about additional counseling - for OD and myself.

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ferndog

Let me start by saying I have no children so my opinion holds little water.
Whoever I work with kids around that age range of your daughter in low income neighborhoods. I see innocent kids. I see kids going through puverty. I also see kids pushing buttons to see what they can get away with.

It would be nice to see where she is. Mother either is having a lot of stress and taking it out on the child or who knows.

You would know more. But Im sure your EW loves her. Communication gets lost when respect is lost.

Sucks for all involved. But love and dissapline go hand in hand or your daughter may make life long mistakes.

I wish you luck my friend. Love your daughter and try to judge from all angles. I'm sure both have faults
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nice777guy

Police called again last night. This is getting old. Would - again - appreciate any feedback, but I opened a new thread in the Parenting section this time.

Thanks.

ExW and OD - Police Called for Second Time - Confused

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Paradise

Nice.....My feedback is the same as I posted above. It's time for you to step in and take over. At the very least consult a lawyer and figure out your options.

Shoeguy

I agree with Paradise. You should take control of the problem.

I think the focus should be on the OD and what is best for her. It is a tough age but it sounds like she is reaching out for something.

It sounds liek now the slightest thing sets off an explosion and that is not helpful.

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