I think I would want exclusivity. I would not be comfortable being "dude number 5" for the week. I'd hope she was free of STD's, but would I insist on screens for both of us?
Of course, all this could be just me "saying so", as I have not been stuck in the back of a car with Kate Beckinsale trying to pull my clothes off.
At this point, I am afraid primal need would dismiss all concerns.
When dating, when do you think the "exclusivity" topic should come up?
I've never actually had an exclusivity talk, but I guess it should be around the time you're thinking of sleeping with one another. I've never been into casual sex and wouldn't sleep with someone who was.
an even simpler answer, when you're comfortable with the idea of being seen naked by said person.
I know exhubs and I had sex too soon, we were half dressed, and the next day it was this huge awkward situation about taking a shower together. ha, kind of funny really. "like, uh, did you want to take a shower with me?" I think we made only eye contact the entire shower lol.
I know exhubs and I had sex too soon, we were half dressed, and the next day it was this huge awkward situation about taking a shower together. ha, kind of funny really. "like, uh, did you want to take a shower with me?" I think we made only eye contact the entire shower lol.
Hilarious. When did you guys have "the talk?" How soon did you guys sleep together?
For me, it didn't take too long. I just needed to "dive back in" the game, so-to-speak. After being out of the dating scene for some time(9+ years), I really wasn't sure what to make out of it. I was told I waited longer than most(1 year) to start dating. The sex didn't come into play till a couple of weeks after meeting up.
I've known my current "distraction" for some time now, which makes it a bit easier for the transition- I felt "safe." I think meeting some random person poses different obstacles. I also believe it's a bit different for men and women. I think women tend to attach emotions with sex, so it's a bit more complex in that sense.
I guess it's what you, as well as who you're comfortable with.....there is no timetable.
for me, i dont casual date or have casual sex, i need a connection to have sex with somebody.
i make it known up front i only do exclusive and i expect the same from her.
i am looking for the one to be with from now on and i dont think you can really get to know somebody if you are juggling 2 or 3 or more people.
i let them know that at any time after we start talking with the intent to date they or i are free to move on if either dont feel something soon heading in the direction i or they want and honesty is best as soon as possible about that.
as far as when to DO IT, i think just when you both feel very comfortable about it.
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Dating & sex - When to DO it 
