This statement from the ex, captioned in a photo of her and her new doushebag, digs at me.
To dismiss, or to be willing to dismiss, so many years of obvious happiness, and then to purposely destroy that over a period of time, get involved with another man, and then pretend that shes "happier than shes ever been"?
Who must be convinced?
Or is that the xanax talking?
Let her spew all she wants, she is in your past. She may be even doing it cause she knows it will get back to you and wants to make you feel jealous. Or she could have the emotional maturity of a 12 year old girl who has to talk talk talk about her shiny new boyfriend (who she will run into problems with eventually if she hasn't already).
My ex went nuts when we separated, hitting the club circuit (in mid-30s!) and posting pics of himself with all these transvestite looking girls who were horribly (and cheaply -- egads!) dressed with big gums and teeth and posting "Life is so fvckin good!" Then he'd start saying how "Gosh it just can't get any worse." Or start writing other really icky stuff and I thought, Wow.. to publicize all this crap... is insane.
Shoo--don't feed into it. Nobody's life is amazinghappyjoyjoy 24/7. It's a FRONT.
You want to get out of your hole? Start climbing out of it. One step at a time. And part of that step and going completely no contact w/ her except for co-parenting. That means blocking any way you are able to see/hear anything about her life. Out of sight, out of mind.
It is a FRONT. And it's all out of touch with reality because IF she really feels this way it's only temporary...just wait till the dopamine wears off.
This statement from the ex, captioned in a photo of her and her new doushebag, digs at me.
To dismiss, or to be willing to dismiss, so many years of obvious happiness, and then to purposely destroy that over a period of time, get involved with another man, and then pretend that shes "happier than shes ever been"?
Who must be convinced?
Or is that the xanax talking?
I long for the day when I can get out of my hole.
I want to be happy too.
Shoo, are you looking at FB again? Dude, I know it hurts like hell, but try not to let it get to you. Think of it this way; no matter how you feel, it's not gonna change a damn thing.
My ex (from what I hear) is "so happy" with her new beau. I thought about that for a second or two when I heard it, and as I started to get a little angry/bummed I stopped myself, and told myself the following:
No matter what she tells herself or others on how she is doing now, it does not change the fact she is a wayward wife who gave nothing to try to save a marriage. And for that she is and always will be, a b*tch. No amount of "happiness" or "self convincing" she has or does changes that fact. :-)
It's the weekend. Find a girl, make her the center of your universe tonight, and share some smiles and laughs. I'm gonna! :-)
Let her spew all she wants, she is in your past. She may be even doing it cause she knows it will get back to you and wants to make you feel jealous. Or she could have the emotional maturity of a 12 year old girl who has to talk talk talk about her shiny new boyfriend (who she will run into problems with eventually if she hasn't already).
My ex went nuts when we separated, hitting the club circuit (in mid-30s!) and posting pics of himself with all these transvestite looking girls who were horribly (and cheaply -- egads!) dressed with big gums and teeth and posting "Life is so fvckin good!" Then he'd start saying how "Gosh it just can't get any worse." Or start writing other really icky stuff and I thought, Wow.. to publicize all this crap... is insane.
Shoo--don't feed into it. Nobody's life is amazinghappyjoyjoy 24/7. It's a FRONT.
You want to get out of your hole? Start climbing out of it. One step at a time. And part of that step and going completely no contact w/ her except for co-parenting. That means blocking any way you are able to see/hear anything abou ther life. Out of sight, out of mind.
LOL,,, after so long a period of time without a womans touch I think I may be asexual and can possibly reproduce by myself.
At least some have suggested ways to attempt it...
I have blocked her on FB, but in rare cases I see images untagged of old friends who are still in contact with her and they all do things..
"friends".. ha.
Those who now support her, and tell her shes never looked better...
So here I am a year now (well in about twelve days) a YEAR into the single life, and I dont really have much of one. Ive been taking it easy and trying to cope with a lot of my own emotions and also things that continue to occur that makes it difficult just to keep a stiff upper lip.
@JB, probably about six months ago? Then I got off of FB completely, and recently got back on.
And yeah, I stalked her some, removed the block, took a look at her and her POSOM. The more I can accept that as the reality now, the more I feel stronger for myself and a sense of losing those final few threads that hold on to some ridiculous romantic fairy tale that wouldnt be good for me anyways... I'm waiting to see those crushing pictures of her and him and the kid being a "family". I think thats what I am waiting for. I think that day will come, but its not healthy to think about it, but Im probably somewhat disturbed anyways, and I just want to get it over with.
Shoo, this is gonna sound really strange, but one of the things I did was to force myself to just get the pain and hurt out of me. I found that if I kept "choking it down" my outlook on life and love just headed downward.
I tried to "man-up" and keep it all buried. Then, I heard of piece of music that helped. Why? I have no idea. I have seen lives end before my eyes trying to save them and nothing got me to break down like my divorce and this piece of music. I cried like a 6 year old girl when I first heard it. But, after the cry I looked at what was left of me in the mirror and said to myself "it's time to put it to bed". Shoo, buddy, find that spot.
Ever have a funeral for your marriage? I'm having mine this weekend as a matter of fact. Writing a letter to your EX about your marriage, etc. and instead of sending it to her, you read it to YOURSELF and then BURN IT. Cut the connection you have on Facebook.
Shoo, this is gonna sound really strange, but one of the things I did was to force myself to just get the pain and hurt out of me. I found that if I kept "choking it down" my outlook on life and love just headed downward.
I tried to "man-up" and keep it all buried. Then, I heard of piece of music that helped. Why? I have no idea. I have seen lives end before my eyes trying to save them and nothing got me to break down like my divorce and this piece of music. I cried like a 6 year old girl when I first heard it. But, after the cry I looked at was left of me in the mirror and said to myself "it's time to put it to bed". Shoo, buddy, find that spot.
"Con Te Partiro" was the piece.
-FL
Wanna know what song made me cry when I heard it a few months ago? Outro by M83. brought so many emotions to the surface. And at the time I thought the song was not good for me the first time I listened to it, but now I see it as healing at it allows to get so many emotions out of me. Here's a youtube clip of it. Cool flight stuff and has a quote at the end you need to see for yourself, but if you close your eyes and listen....you'll understand. http://http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6cDT2vWNOnY
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