Re: 4 years and still hurting
18 months out of a 30 year marriage, she left me moved immediately in with a good friend of our both. Divorced me and married him within 8 months.....so I've been thru. First, if you have not done so seek some counseling, can't say it enough...seek counseling. When it first happened I was unable to work, could not concentrate (I'm an insurance agent). Fortunate to be able to take Hugh bits of time off, I even now struggle at times, feel like I am about 75%, at times not even 10% of were I was pre divorce. I would suggest looking into the 180, not to get her back but for the emphases on making a better you. Do I miss her? Do I miss the future I planned? Hell yes! Did I get closure? No! Wish I did. (she won't even talk to me, lives 5 blocks from me in a town of 8,500, haven't even seen her in a year). But let me tell you, asa 53 year old with NO dating experience, high school sweethearts, it is a target rich environment out there! In a persons 20's advantage women, 50's big advantage man! I have no problems getting a date, from real classy women, women who love to have a good time, enjoy someone to talk with, women you would be proud to take home to mother! 3 months after the Affair someone posted this same message to me, I had no idea! Stay here on TAM, post often, let everyone help you get thru this. Most important...Take Action! The only way she can ruin your life is if YOU let her. Good luck to you, stay here and Listen to the advice given. A great life is ahead, igf you will only run out to meet it!