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...if it progresses to dating i would make sure you are clear on you intentions that you are just looking for casual. ( though knowing you muskrat im going to guess you will go all in )
Finding this to be very true. Extremely important. Best to bring it up early in casual conversation as one of your general conditions.

Started to see a woman that I thought was on the same page. Turned out after just a couple of dates she was expecting a commitment.

This, among other things, tells me she emotionally unprepared. It's too bad.

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Singleton here. I think I am ready to try a date or two. My issue is that men never ask me out, and I have made a pact with myself to NOT be the one to pursue or make the first move any more. So I will probably remain dateless forever, lol!
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Singleton here. I think I am ready to try a date or two. My issue is that men never ask me out, and I have made a pact with myself to NOT be the one to pursue or make the first move any more. So I will probably remain dateless forever, lol!
really? can I ask why you wont make the first move?
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Singleton here. I think I am ready to try a date or two. My issue is that men never ask me out, and I have made a pact with myself to NOT be the one to pursue or make the first move any more. So I will probably remain dateless forever, lol!
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Single. Divorce is over. Have my son about 70-90% of the time.

I'm trying as much new stuff as I can before I consider getting into a serious relationship. I do enjoy how things are working out thus far. My biggest concern is actually being successful in a relationship and then falling out of my comfort zone in meeting new people and making new friends.

But when its a concern at least then you can work on it. Life is strange.
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really? can I ask why you wont make the first move?
Because my man picker is broken! All three of my husbands, I was the one to initiate, so obviously, I need to stop doing what DOESNT WORK!

Thanks CeeGee!
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My worry is once in a committed, LT relationship, will old patterns surface?

Trying to work on myself as best as I can and recognize things, but sometimes things don't appear that need to be worked on until you are in that whole relationship dynamic.
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My worry is once in a committed, LT relationship, will old patterns surface?

Trying to work on myself as best as I can and recognize things, but sometimes things don't appear that need to be worked on until you are in that whole relationship dynamic.
Yea VI some of my old patterns resurfaced after a fair amount of time in the relationship. I actually started back in IC just to work on it, then stuff ended.
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Because my man picker is broken! All three of my husbands, I was the one to initiate, so obviously, I need to stop doing what DOESNT WORK!

Thanks CeeGee!
Fair enough
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I have my daughter with me every other week, so weeks like this when I dont have that responsibility, one would think after 17 yrs with the same woman, and now divorced due to her infidelity, I would be out on the town!!!
But Im not.
Lots of debt from the marriage, so attempting to keep it cool on the expenditures until its affordable, I never expected to be on this end of the financial hell that was my ex's lifestyle...but it sure puts a damper on a lot of things I would find myself interested in going and doing.
My self confidence is way down, I'm having a hard time picking that back up..
Pushups?

When married, and just before I got married. I never wore purple. Used too when I was younger and more confident in myself.

I can proudly say that after thousands of pushups. I wear purple now. Ladies seem to love it.

Money is tight as I am still paying off the divorce debt. I admit, i'm young, so I can bounce back easily financially. What's 3 years at age 29? I'm working on myself, and loving/trusting myself.

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PUSHUPS ARE THE SH!T!!!

I would also recommend them for a confidence boost.
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PUSHUPS BRAS ARE THE SH!T!!!

I would also recommend them for a confidence boost.
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push up bras are just as good for moobs as for boobs AR

Learn how to talk proper, know what I mean?

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Dolly is all of the women actually.
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Well, I just had my yearly adventure in dating, so I'm good til next year.

Being an introvert, it makes meeting people IRL really difficult. And the things I like to do are mainly solitary, or there are mostly women around. Dating sites are not working for me.

So, I'm just getting used to being alone with my awesomeness.

I'm undecided on which pants to wear today -- smarty, fancy or sassy?
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Let's see...I'm single.

Don't know what to say about myself. I'm me.

I'll be 64 in July so I'm older than most here.

Still work as an engineer and will for a few more years.

Live with my 24 year old son and 3 big dogs on a small farm.

My son is 24, in college (physics and math) and still living at home. He does not want any debt and I agree with this. He'll probably graduate in December. Then he wants to go on for his masters degree.
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