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Because my man picker is broken! All three of my husbands, I was the one to initiate, so obviously, I need to stop doing what DOESNT WORK!

Thanks CeeGee!
Have you read “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”? It talks about this and why the woman being the initiator of a relationship does not work. It also explains how a woman can let a guy know she’s interested but let him make the first move.

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Have you read “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”? It talks about this and why the woman being the initiator of a relationship does not work. It also explains how a woman can let a guy know she’s interested but let him make the first move.
Interesting....I may have to give that a read then!
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Muskrat you do not take me as a "slvt it up" type of guy.... perhaps you would like one of us TAM ladies to look at your dating profile to provide some help, to keep away the crazy ones
Thanks for the offer, but I have deleted all online dating profiles. I gave up on it for now, I will stick with in person for the time being. The problem is I am pretty shy around new people and so I have trouble starting new friendships.

Meetups sound great. The trouble I have had is I have my kids everytime there is an event that sounds interesting. My custody situation should be changing soon, so maybe I will have more time to get out. As things stand I am free 2 nights a week.
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why is meeting new people so hard? online dating has been interesting and very full of crazy women.
Maybe I need to just "slvt it up" and learn to embrace ons's. This has never been my style, but we are supposed to try new things right? lol Now I just need to find women willing to cooperate. lol
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It also explains how a woman can let a guy know she’s interested but let him make the first move.
That's the important part of it, though... You don't need to initiate anything, but please give the guy a clue that he's welcome to initiate something.
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That's the important part of it, though... You don't need to initiate anything, but please give the guy a clue that he's welcome to initiate something.

Ladies, also keep in mind that some men like myself are terrible at picking up subtle hints.
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Ladies, also keep in mind that some men like myself are terrible at picking up subtle hints.
But see, I always knew this about guys, thats why I tended to go ahead and initiate the contact, if I could tell he might be interested.
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Ladies, also keep in mind that some men like myself are terrible at picking up subtle hints.
Which brings us back full circle to slvtting it up, I think.

I'm undecided on which pants to wear today -- smarty, fancy or sassy?
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I got offers.

But I fear success and turn them down.

Honestly, I think your problem is still worse.
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Which brings us back full circle to slvtting it up, I think.
My stbxw followed me home from a mutual friends house and asked me out to dinner. It was only at this point I realized she might be interested in me.
I am a little slow on picking up clues. Of course I now wish I would have locked my door when she showed up instead of inviting her in. And no we did not have sex that night.

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My D was final a month ago. Met a girl online. She showed me the vertical cuts up her forearms where she twice attempted suicide, told me about all her prescriptions, being raped, and twice weekly therapy sessions. There was more she wanted to tell me but we ran out of time. Had to pick up my daughter.

And I thought my ex wife had issues. I think I might take a little break.
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I agree with AR.

....all divorcees should embrace their inner slvt and have a little period of craziness.



..I refer to it as "trying on different hats".


Nothin' says lovin' like fleece and a body-length zipper.
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I agree with AR.

....all divorcees should embrace their inner slvt and have a little period of craziness.



..I refer to it as "trying on different hats".

HA! Good way of putting it.

I didn't try on many hats but did have crazy fun none the less LOL
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I am currently wearing a hat that I really, really, really, really like.




...I just hope the wind doesn't blow this one away.

Nothin' says lovin' like fleece and a body-length zipper.
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Ha!! I thought of the 'wearing many hats' when MR was posting earlier. Good times on that old thread.

I'm undecided on which pants to wear today -- smarty, fancy or sassy?
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