07-05-2013, 02:37 AM
Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: State of Unwedded Bliss
| | Re: Looming of Wedding Anniversary
The best advice I can give is to take the day back. Make it about you, and not about the anniversary. The more years you invested, the longer it might take to go past the memory of what the day has been (and I say that whether your memories are good ones or bad ones).
Get together with friends but tell them way ahead of time that you'd rather not hear references to your ex, if you don't think that will make them uncomfortable. Get out of town if you can, even on an overnighter. Take yourself out to dinner at a place you've wanted to try but couldn't because the ex wouldn't have liked it. Make it about celebrating you -- the fact that you've survived this process.
Do your best to dissociate that date from your previous life.
(My ex walked out, but I ended up doing all the legal heavy lifting for the D. As it happened, I filed the day before our 12th anniversary. Our final hearing was Valentine's Day of this year. It's tough, but you can get through it.)
You are the books you read, the films you watch, the music you listen to, the people you meet, the dreams you have, the conversations you engage in. You are what you take from these...You are a collective of every experience you have had in your life. You are every single day. So drown yourself in a sea of knowledge and existence. Let the words run through your veins and let the colours fill your mind.