Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: State of Unwedded Bliss
Re: Looming of Wedding Anniversary
The best advice I can give is to take the day back. Make it about you, and not about the anniversary. The more years you invested, the longer it might take to go past the memory of what the day has been (and I say that whether your memories are good ones or bad ones).
Get together with friends but tell them way ahead of time that you'd rather not hear references to your ex, if you don't think that will make them uncomfortable. Get out of town if you can, even on an overnighter. Take yourself out to dinner at a place you've wanted to try but couldn't because the ex wouldn't have liked it. Make it about celebrating you -- the fact that you've survived this process.
Do your best to dissociate that date from your previous life.
(My ex walked out, but I ended up doing all the legal heavy lifting for the D. As it happened, I filed the day before our 12th anniversary. Our final hearing was Valentine's Day of this year. It's tough, but you can get through it.)
I'm undecided on which pants to wear today -- smarty, fancy or sassy?