Long Term Success in MarriageIf you've been married 10+ years and consider your marriage a success, post your success story here. Help others by talking about what works for you.
We are best friends.
We have no problems telling each other our wants/desires.
We still have passion after 10 years.
We have common goals.
We enjoy joking and sarcasm.
We both have no problems taking an adventure in the bedroom.
We would rather spend time with each other than apart.
When she's weak I am strong, when I am tired she is my support.
I think one of the most important things is we both are not afraid to let the other person know when we are hurt/unhappy with the situation or what the other one is doing. We may not always solve it right away, but we don't let things fester, everything is kept out in the open.
Wow if I could only say the same but one day at a time and baby steps to be were you are.
Candy:
Don't sweat it; all relationships take work, whatever stage you're in. My wife and I are now best friends, but it hasn't always been that way. We only got there after years of hard work. I don't care what anyone tells you, every marriage has issues.
One thing I really enjoy about my wife is that we don't have to boast about "mind-blowing" sex, that everything is bliss every day of the year. I appreciate the simple things: we can sit together on the couch, doing and saying nothing and we enjoy each others company.
we always say "i love you" & "I miss you" to each other
we share all happy and sad moments
we respect each other (we will try our best to understand each other)
we have our own privacy
we always travel together
we will discuss our problem instead of fighting it
we always surprise each other :P
**There are more, but these are the ones that I think it is good enough for me! **
we always say "i love you" & "I miss you" to each other
we share all happy and sad moments
we respect each other (we will try our best to understand each other)
we have our own privacy
we always travel together
we will discuss our problem instead of fighting it
we always surprise each other :P
**There are more, but these are the ones that I think it is good enough for me! **
Love these, nice!
Here's a slight twist for those who are interested.
What is one challenge in your marriage that has gone from bad to good?
Me first! I am what you would label as very loose in spending money; I don't lake to track it, deal with bills or debts, and looking at financials in any way makes me nuts. (When we were first married it more than drove my wife nuts as well).
Ok, so here's the good that came out of bad for us. Originally, I handled the money in our marriage but made a mess of it. When I finally admitted that my wife was much better than I was at managing our finances (as tough and humbling as that was), it eliminated a huge area of conflict in our marriage.
That one incident has served as a precedent for how we handle our strengths and weaknesses in marriage: we try to rely on and submit to each others strengths and look out for each others weaknesses.
Anybody else have a story for how one challenge in your marriage went from?
We share a lot of the same interests and love being/doing stuff together
We are very similar in our values and beliefs
We love and are devoted to our kids
We are very similar in our parenting styles
We have great sex!
We love to sit and TALK to each other about everything and anything for hours
We accept and love each other for what we are
We are affectionate to each other
We give each other our space when we need it
We don't boss each other around
We make each other happy.
Wow... Didn't mean to dig up old threads but I was looking back at some of my old posts and came across this one.
Talk about doing a 180...I wrote this almost EXACTLY 10 months ago and now we are separated and the man I wrote about is gone..not just physically but emotionally as well. What's replaced him is a mere shell.
Sometimes we can barely stand to be in the same room with each other now and we are often have a fight. It's just so sad and discouraging....
I still wonder what the heck happened.
"Long term success in Marriage". Guess I'll never figure out what that is.
__________________ D DAY: Monday, April 1, 2013 And now it's your chance to move on
Change the way you've lived for so long
And find the strength you've had inside all along
'Cause life starts now
Last edited by Freak On a Leash; 02-24-2011 at 05:56 PM.
It's pretty dismal. He's deep into alcoholism/depression now. It was a pretty bad summer and fall was even worse. At the end of November he moved out into his father's house. I guess what's good about our marriage now is that we aren't living together so at least we aren't tearing at each other anymore and it's much better for the kids. I have my own apartment and I really like that aspect a lot.
We see each other regularly. I still love him and sometimes we are like we used to be. We can talk and be like friends, but those times are getting fewer and farther between. Until he gets help for himself our marriage is like a car stuck in the mud..the wheels are turning and we aren't going anywhere. It's a shame because he's a good and decent man deep inside but he's fallen prey to this disease.
Never would've thought it could happen when I first replied to this thread. I thought we were doing so well..
__________________ D DAY: Monday, April 1, 2013 And now it's your chance to move on
Change the way you've lived for so long
And find the strength you've had inside all along
'Cause life starts now
I haven't been on these forums long, but most of the time we find ourselves reading mostly negative information about marriage. Positive reinforcement is a good thing, so even if your marriage is a little rocky at the moment, what is GOOD about it?
Here's mine:
- We always say 'I love you'
- We try to talk TO each other, not AT each other
- We support each others independence (getting out with friends etc)
- We support each others disciplining of the children, even if we don't completely agree
- We compromise when needed
- We still have sex (even if frequency is an issue ATM!)
- We touch each other non sexually
- We are Honest with each other
- We do our best to put the others needs above our own
I know there's more for me, but there's my quick list.
Always nice to see a fellow canuck.
-we are very affectionate
-we put each other first
-we strike the perfect balance between traditional/non traditional ideals for marriage
-we have a sex life that is hotter than hell.
-we are good at dealing with disappointments and setbacks.
-we agree on not having children
-we are considerate of each other
-we accept each other, while also striving to encourage each other to be our best
-our personalities complement each other; introvert/extrovert happily living together, yet poking our heads into each other's worlds.
- We are best friends, and very close
- We both love our little angel (our daughter)
- We are both strong enough to put up with each other
- We fight a lot, yet make up a lot - hence in a way... "effective communication!" Heh
- We have similar ideals, principles, morals
- We're unbreakable, no matter what has been, is being, or will be thrown at us. And we know this, and even joke about it.
But these are during the "good times". Still issues to iron out.
We are still in love with each other married over 10 togehter almost 20!!
Physically rolling 2-3 a week with her being extra frisky lately!
Similar morals!
We talk all day txt, flirt, IM, call!
We are each others best friends!
Given a choice of free time we always pick each other!
All the norms like respect, caring, considerate, studious, huge heart, selfless, family first!
I can't literally count the fights on one hand in the last decade. Our thought patterns are so in sync. It's almost scary how well we get along!
We cry, laugh, dream, plan, sometimes I look at my life and can't believe how lucky I really am!
only been 6 years and it has been a rocky 6 years but reading peoples +'s make me relize why a rocky 6 years still see's us together today.
-We never go to bed without saying i love you.
-We never let the other leave without a goodbye kiss
-we are both great parents...(good cop bad cop...im the bad cop lol)
-Sex is wonderful, always trying new things and toys hell even if she dont feel like it she tell me (ill bend over the bed make it quick)
-she is my fishing buddy, my video game pal and my wife
we have stuff to work on, alot of stuff but i do feel better after listing the goods of us instead of the worse.
She's honest, completely faithful, hard-working, very funny, tender hearted, not at all materialistic,etc. She "gets" my oddball attempts at humor but keeps me from making an idiot of myself. She's not fixated on her appearance but no woman on earth is half as pretty when we go out. She's not clingy and she's tough enough to keep things rolling when I'm called away but acts dependant enough to make it clear that she needs me. She's got an awful, fiery temper but if I handle situations properly, she's also capable of having long, calm, productive conversations with me.
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