Dryden

I haven't been on these forums long, but most of the time we find ourselves reading mostly negative information about marriage. Positive reinforcement is a good thing, so even if your marriage is a little rocky at the moment, what is GOOD about it?

Here's mine:
- We always say 'I love you'
- We try to talk TO each other, not AT each other
- We support each others independence (getting out with friends etc)
- We support each others disciplining of the children, even if we don't completely agree
- We compromise when needed
- We still have sex (even if frequency is an issue ATM!)
- We touch each other non sexually
- We are Honest with each other
- We do our best to put the others needs above our own

I know there's more for me, but there's my quick list.

swedish

Great thread Dyden!

- We are very touchy feely & say I Love You often
- We laugh together
- We support one another
- We respect each other
- We enjoy being around each other
- We still manage to find new things to do together...one of our recent things is wine tastings

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CJR39

This is good except my marriage is in an unhealthy space which is why this is probably perfect to speak about.

-We are great business partners. Good work ethic together.
-We are good co-parents of our small child.
-We have great sex when we get around to it.
-We can be affectionate at time.
-We can sit and talk together about general things (non-personal things) without arguing.

I feel a little better and hope my list lengthens with time.

DawnD

-- we have the same taste in foods
-- we both feel secure in our future by just hugging one another
-- we can laugh at ourselves
-- we can see our future and LOVE IT
-- we both want to travel and see everything

themrs

• we love each other
• we enjoy being together
• we can give each other space
• we can sit next to each other without feeling the pressure to talk
• we see ourselves with each other when we are old
• we make each other laugh
• we can overlook each others flaws
• we are very compatible in the sack
• we get better with time
• we see eye to eye on politics and religion
• our families get along and we get along with each others families
• we are kind to each other
• we compliment each other often
• we are affectionate to one another
• considerate of each others needs

dwaynewilliams

My wife and I have our fair share of problems, but we do have a lot going for us in this marriage. We definitely respect each other and we are extremely attracted to one another even after the baby. We have had to deal with a lot since the beginning but I think that we have grown smarter (not necessarily stronger) in our relationship. At the very foundation of it all, we genuinely have a love for the books. I don't think that I have ever seen two people love each other as much as we do. If we didn't love each other so much we would have parted ways a long time ago.
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SimplyAmorous

Wonderful things about our marraige - My list :

* We miss & think of each other always -
when apart

* We both are affectionate, hugging, kissing,
touching, always leaves for work & comes home with a kiss & arms wrapped around me.

* Never a day goes by without
saying "I love you"

* We never let the sun go down on our
anger - but this has kept us up all night talking/fighting at times.

* We generally have the same
Religious/Political views

* We think the same in regards to raising
our children as far as discipline & what is allowed, not
allowed

* Have always been "best friends" -since we met in our teens

* Both "Home-buddies" -enjoy the simple life


* We both LOVE the country, country outings


* Both enjoy watching movies together at
night while holding each other, our normal nightly routine

* Sex life is abundant, he is always up for
whatever I want, He desires to Please me, I desire to Please him.
Sexual attraction is still there after many many yrs.

* We've both only been with each other -
ever, we hold that dear to our hearts.

* Completely OPEN about everything with
each other - "secure" in that love as to not doubt our faithfulness to each other - even if we LOOK upon the opposite sex at times interestingly, appreciating the physical beauty of others
(example, visiting strip clubs, also watching soft porn
together).

* Communication & Honesty is very important
to us, neither of us seems capable of HIDING something from the other, it would "eat us up" inside if we tried.

* Share the same financial goals in life .
Neither of us are workaholics, and we both are frugal with our $$ , as to always be able to afford what we want & need for our
family.

* We have the ability to LAUGH (sometimes
even make jokes) over some of the things we previouosly had
almost brawlish Fights over. I bring most of these on
mind you, they are stupid generally. I think it is good we
can laugh about it later.


I am sure I can think of more, but it is a start. Our list of bad would be very small on both sides, but we do have our issues. And that is OK. We all need something to work on.


He would say I am "Too critical & impatient" at times, and I would say he does not "talk enough" & needs to be more sexually dominant in the bedroom. Other than that, it is pretty much bliss and smooth sailing.

DameEdna

Awwwwwwwwwwww pass me the bucket folks

It's a great idea to write down the good things instead of focussing on the bad..... so let's think...........

- Tolerance
- Each doing our bit around the house
- Being there for the kids
- The occasional hug (I suppose)
- Nookie (rare but good when it happens)
- I suppose we have the same outlook on life, money etc.


I'm sure there's more.... but when I hear of others' saying "I Love You" every day, and being touchy feely with each other... I kinda feel like I'm missing out!

BellaOnlineMarriageEditor

* We make a good team and compliment each other well.
* We are affectionate and touch often.
* We enjoy spending time together
* Sex is still great even 4 kids (and 15 years) later
* We have similar interests and tastes
* My hubby is the sexiest man I know