Hello everyone.....I am new here, and this thread caught my attention right away. I completely concur with everything the OP said here, and see a lot of that too in people.
Culture also plays a large role here i.e. some cultures are more disciplined and strict than others in say the western world, where kids don't even get to repeat a grade when they fail, simply because their feeling shouldn't be hurt.
My 9yr marriage failure was a victim of this mentality, as my ex had her mum do everything for her, and didn't instill work ethic or the importance of education. I was the complete opposite.
Since my divorce, I have come across women both single with no kids and those with kids, who have a complete sense of entitlement, but try to mask this with a pretense. I am in my early 40s by the way...a professional, single dad (1 kid), well traveled, fit, and volunteer in the community.
I look around with today's teenagers, and I can't even imagine what kind of future they are going to have relationship wise when are all mostly like each other. Not to gender bash, but we continue to have Moms becoming BFFs with their daughter, and scared of disciplining them when they do something wrong i.e. raising kids to be just like them. Yes...some men are raising their sons to be lazy bums too who can't even do simply laundry or cook.
Unfortunately these days, there seems to be a lot of 30 plus marriages coming to an end.
Male, married 26 years, 2 college age kids, success reason:
Because both of us took the words "till death do us part" seriously. We committed to the institution of marriage, and the two of us are just in it for the ride. Do we always love each other, yes. Do we always like each other, no.
Take each other for granted, yes. We both take for granted the knowledge that the other is committed, and whatever our arguments, there will be the two of us when it is ironed out.
So many of today's relationships die because the parties only know about "me". They have been raised in the "me" generation, they have been forever (mostly falsely) praised by their parents so as to not hurt their self esteem. Momma and daddy have never let them struggle through something, and blatantly fail, so they have no skills to put together an ensuing plan to succeed. They have been given everything and told that they can have everything the want in life.....BS.
They are self centered and egotistical immature people who do not understand that their partner is not there to make them happy and constantly pump up their fragile ego.