Well, let's see. I have been married for 3 years, but we've been living together for 15 years. We met in college and even though we started out as friends with benefits, over time we realized we had many things in common and soon, we became best friends. Which we still are today.
I like to think of my marriage as a success, at least so far. But 15 years at my age is a considerable success, I think (I'm 34). I think one of the things that has helped us over the years is the fact that we've never tried to change anything about each other. I fell in love with him because of the man he is, and I think trying to change something, anything about him, would be a contradiction. So we accept each other the way we are, we've done that from the very beginning, back in 1998. And we've continued to do so until now.
This doesn't mean we haven't had our problems, but even then, we've tried to solve our problems as quickly as possible. Our goals in life are perfectly aligned, we do not want any children, we want to keep traveling all over the world and we both need a creative outlet, so we both have jobs that require us to be creative and we often help each other. It's a partnership and we're also best friends. We love each other more and more every year, and it helps that the relationship is a lot of fun. Nobody makes me laugh like Daniel does.
Sexual monogamy doesn't apply on our relationship either. We do not find that desirable, really. The sex is fantastic, and it's better now after 15 years, so I can assume it will get even better in time. But I guess it all comes down to be completely honest with each other and not trying to change each other. We love each other the way we are. I mean, otherwise, we wouldn't be together, right?
Thanks for letting me share this