Thank you, good stuff, as always. I'll check out the book. I think I’ve been pretty good about asking, but not always so good at getting more than a blank stare.
A blank stare....Oh No!... Does this have anything to do with what you are asking !@#
I can't say myself or H has ever ignored or tried to get out of a question.... but there was a moment..where the question was asinine on my behalf & he brushed me off.... we talked about this a few yrs ago - how we
handled this...He wants to blame me...and I am thinking he should have told me what for... (isn't this so common!)...
One night I threw this ridiculous question out to him...Laying in bed, baby in between us...I'm laying there kissing the baby over & over & over again (lost tract of which one)... like an Italian Grandma.. if I had lipstick on, the baby would look like this...
...he is looking at me... not saying anything.. I really needed hit with a brick...
and I said to him... "you're not jealous , are you?"..... Now...he had an opportunity speak his mind...something!@#$.... but instead he just says "No".. and rolls over ... he was upset...and I was too clueless to really grasp how selfish I was being or what he needed.
I've thought back to this time in our lives, where I did these things and asked him why in the world he put up with that...I remembered asking him this...that's when he tells me he felt I had an attitude.... Now honestly I never meant any harm...I wasn't mad - I was happy - He has sex on the brain & I didn't...(this was the issue)...
Thinking about it though... in it's own twisted way, maybe that was a unconscious sh** test of mine, I don't know!... Maybe I wanted him to SAY SOMETHING!!
Meson said: Intellectual Foreplay looks interesting. Having lost that connection in the past and being lucky enough to have reconnected again six years ago, I don't want to make the same mistake again. Life is busy and she (my wife) is changing and I need to keep up. Great idea!
Yeah...we gotta keep up...don't let any grass grow under our feet...
I asked my H if he ever had a Mid Life Crisis a few yrs ago...on the heels of mine..cause if so, I couldn't tell !....He told me he went through a phase where he was feeling sad -that all the kids were growing so fast... heck I didn't even realize it ~ I don't remember his saying anything about it.. then it passed..
Yes, TAM satisfies some of my conversation and social needs. But not to a great extent. It actually helps me more with my need to write than anything else!
I seem to have a NEED to write too..