" Intellectual Foreplay
"....it's the name of a book I have...(can click on that link).... it is an invitation for dialogue ..to stay intuned with our lovers... seeking to stay on top of what makes them TICK...what brings them pleasure, but also what irritates them...welcoming their stories / their insights /feelings ... with ears attuned....it's a dance in it's own right...to enrich our ongoing connection...
Although me & my H have always had Lively discussions... feeding off of each other through these past 25 yrs...much
and "Wow, I never would have thunk it!...are you serious?!@#$" coming from my lips...he's surprised me at times...yet I missed some of the questions that could have alerted me to his need....I let them slide past me...it was such a simple thing..
5 yrs ago, we got down & dirty with a flurry of communication reaching these places we were missing..... I've always been one good for throwing the Open-Ended Questions
out...whether it be with friends, family, even our kids....I look back & wonder how this escaped me...with my own Husband, my dearest friend !
We've had some shocking moments / Emotional moments / some heartfelt remorse.....but also had I not opened this treasure box of digging deeper...some of our most awesome discoveries might still be buried under the surface...it has been a Joy unraveling these!
My husband has become more vulnerable with me as I have shown a deeper interest in him & his world, wanting to revive all we have together....this has brought us closer intellectually, emotionally, spiritually, and physically.
Just something on my