08-18-2008, 08:43 AM
Join Date: Aug 2008
| | The woman I am married to for over 12 years!
This is my first post here and since I cannot find an introductory page, let me share to you why I am still married to the same woman for over 12 years.
First of all, my wife was adopted by my aunt when she was more than a month old which makes her my first cousin by name. Up to this moment, no one knows who and where her parents are. I met her when I was already 22 and she's 15. Since we were together in the same house, we fell in love with each other two years later. Since she was young then, it never came to my mind that she will be my wife six years later.
With that, I can say that our start was really tough since my relatives cannot accept that we were meant for each other. That is why we decided to live far away from them. I hope you can imagine how hard we went through.
Now after 12 long years, I can say that our marriage is a success and I think we are really meant for each other. So how do we maintain it. Here is our daily habit.
In the morning, we greet each other with a sweet smile while preparing for breakfast and watching the morning news. We talk about anything in the sun. Communication is our most common interest and we never run out of something to share. In the evening after I come home from work, we still do the same and until now that our children usually pinch in.
Sounds boring? Not for us, because we argue too. However, we meet halfway especially when it comes to children as we do not want to confuse them. Again, communication is the key for us. Do we fight? Of course we do, because there are some honest mistakes in between but we always keep the fight healthy.
Actually, our friends are surprise that we seem to be always happy in spite of our daily battle against economical problems. So what is our secret? - communication! No one may believe me but the night when we decided to get married was pure talk. We lay down all our cards and share each other's secret, likes, dislikes, how many kids we should have and the more important thing - what to do if we will have problems in the future. We knew that life ahead will be tough that is why we do not allow anger, jealousy, and pride to add to our daily problems. Instead, we crack jokes and laugh a lot.
My advice - talk, listen and understand. Whether you agree or disagree on a certain matter, be honest. Being a man does not mean we are always right, and it will not make us half a man if we accept that we are wrong. After all, marriage is a two-way leadership. No boss, no slave.
But most of all, do not forget about the humor as it adds life - better than sex!
Well, I am sorry for the long post but I hope someone can learn from it.