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post #31 of 85 (permalink) Old 12-26-2014, 08:50 PM
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I've been to Oglebay Park in Wheeling. Great place.
after I posted that... thinking we don't really take time to drive around & look at the Christmas lights.. I called there & ended up booking a night....9 of us ...brought our teen sons Gf's with us too... all due to this thread of yours Meson ...

They had like 80 displays of lights, most were in motion...Cabela's is down the road, I think they had every animal imagine stuffed inside there.. a Whitetail room, we seen some crazy antlers on those "non-typical" deer... interesting...it was a nice getaway for the kids....I think what they enjoyed the most was the Breakfast Buffet in the am (we all love stuffing ourselves) ... ping Pong/ swimming & the hot tub though.

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WayUpNorth said : GF and I are members of an 'Outdoor Adventure Club'. It is a Meetup group. There are so many fun things to do. It's not all outdoor stuff either. There is movie night, trivia night, beach bonfire, over nighters at Refuge cabins, and more. We just had our Outdoor Club Christmas party.
You chose the events that interest you. This past summer, a group hiked and camped the entire length of the Resurrection trail. 36 miles. Most events are far less strenuous. Sometimes a spouse or SO may attend an event that sounds fun to them even though the other can not attend, or is merely not interested in that particular event. It's a fun group, and everyone can find something to enjoy.
Our motto is, "Get Out and Play."
That sounds like a happening group ...36 miles!@#... those are some adventurists there !

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after I posted that... thinking we don't really take time to drive around & look at the Christmas lights.. I called there & ended up booking a night....9 of us ...brought our teen sons Gf's with us too... all due to this thread of yours Meson ...

They had like 80 displays of lights, most were in motion...Cabela's is down the road, I think they had every animal imagine stuffed inside there.. a Whitetail room, we seen some crazy antlers on those "non-typical" deer... interesting...it was a nice getaway for the kids....I think what they enjoyed the most was the Breakfast Buffet in the am (we all love stuffing ourselves) ... ping Pong/ swimming & the hot tub though.
I'm glad I inspired an impromptu trip to Oglebay park for your family and friends. Doing that is an adventure for that many! We didn't find the time to cruise and view Christmas lights and displays this year.

We are embarked in another adventure. Our oldest son is having his Eagle court of honor in a few days and we are getting prepared for it. We are not used to or really ready to cook for 75+ people. Lots of people have big parties but it's new to us and so it will be an adventure to host a party like that not at out house.

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GF and I are members of an 'Outdoor Adventure Club'. It is a Meetup group. There are so many fun things to do. It's not all outdoor stuff either. There is movie night, trivia night, beach bonfire, over nighters at Refuge cabins, and more. We just had our Outdoor Club Christmas party.
You chose the events that interest you. This past summer, a group hiked and camped the entire length of the Resurrection trail. 36 miles. Most events are far less strenuous. Sometimes a spouse or SO may attend an event that sounds fun to them even though the other can not attend, or is merely not interested in that particular event. It's a fun group, and everyone can find something to enjoy.
Our motto is, "Get Out and Play."

Get Out and Play is a great motto! I just looked at the Ressurection trail and it looks really fun. I hadn't heard of it before until you mentioned it. It would make a great summer vacation to backpack it.

While looking the Ressurection trail up, I remembered another thing we may want to try. Kayaking part of the inside passage. We are noobs at Kayaking so it will take a lot of work to prepare for it.

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GF and I are members of an 'Outdoor Adventure Club'. It is a Meetup group. There are so many fun things to do. It's not all outdoor stuff either. There is movie night, trivia night, beach bonfire, over nighters at Refuge cabins, and more. We just had our Outdoor Club Christmas party.
You chose the events that interest you. This past summer, a group hiked and camped the entire length of the Resurrection trail. 36 miles. Most events are far less strenuous. Sometimes a spouse or SO may attend an event that sounds fun to them even though the other can not attend, or is merely not interested in that particular event. It's a fun group, and everyone can find something to enjoy.
Our motto is, "Get Out and Play."
I really like Meetup, as they have some great groups. My husband and I love hiking, but 36 miles is pretty crazy. We take our toddler along now, so our hikes are not what they used to be, but it's still a lot of fun. We're heading up to the local mountains this coming weekend to play in the snow. The other night we did a "cooking class" via Youtube to try out a new recipe. Free and a lot of fun. It came out really good, too.
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Kayaking part of the inside passage. We are noobs at Kayaking so it will take a lot of work to prepare for it.
There for a minute I thought you were proposing the whole passage. Cold water, serious distance, and aggressive wildlife. Are there guided Trips? equipped trips? My kayak is not big enough but my Dad and my Brother have kayaks with enough capacity. The trouble is I really like the sit on top models, and with the cargo you would need for a 2 day trip I'd have to use the big tandem or drag it.

You definitely need some training time. And some smaller adventures first.

Any one have an idea for an adventure with a timid spouse? Needs to be more exciting than christmas lights or beach combing. Less exciting than 10 mile hikes.
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There for a minute I thought you were proposing the whole passage. Cold water, serious distance, and aggressive wildlife. Are there guided Trips? equipped trips? My kayak is not big enough but my Dad and my Brother have kayaks with enough capacity. The trouble is I really like the sit on top models, and with the cargo you would need for a 2 day trip I'd have to use the big tandem or drag it.

You definitely need some training time. And some smaller adventures first.

Any one have an idea for an adventure with a timid spouse? Needs to be more exciting than christmas lights or beach combing. Less exciting than 10 mile hikes.
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Oh yes only a part of the passage! We only have a week or two of vacation available for a trip like that and doing the whole passage would take a couple of months. We need to do a lot of research on campsites towns and tides in addition to becoming competent ocean kayakers. When I traveled the inside passage in a boat I saw kayakers camping on extremely high/steep terrain. My wife wouldn't feel comfortable doing that. And whatever we do I need to be able to carry the kayak by myself so that is a bit limiting.

We found we like the big stable tandems. It has room for our gear and allows me to compensate for her strength. We were quite fine in 2ft waves in the Chesapeake with a tandem. We could go to Hawaii and practice ocean kayaking in rough water there. Crossing the Molokai channel would be a good test for that.

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Any one have an idea for an adventure with a timid spouse? Needs to be more exciting than christmas lights or beach combing. Less exciting than 10 mile hikes.
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What are you both into and how is your spouse timid?

Some 'active' activities that come to mind are archery classes, indoor rock climbing, cycling trails?

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What are you both into and how is your spouse timid?

Some 'active' activities that come to mind are archery classes, indoor rock climbing, cycling trails?
Well I shoot rifles she prefers handguns. I kayak she gets seasick in a teacup. I'm taking up hiking, she has a 1 mile limit. She likes lighthouses and waterfalls but is afraid of heights. The last 6 years I have been doing so much camping with my son that she and I hardly do anything outdoors together.

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Well I shoot rifles she prefers handguns. I kayak she gets seasick in a teacup. I'm taking up hiking, she has a 1 mile limit. She likes lighthouses and waterfalls but is afraid of heights. The last 6 years I have been doing so much camping with my son that she and I hardly do anything outdoors together.

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It doesn't need to be outdoor high adventure. Something as mundane as throwing a party could do it. Anything that puts both of you outside of your comfort zone and is a challenge may evoke similar feelings and accomplishment at the end. Something my wife an I just did was throw a party where we cooked for 100+ people. For us it was outside of our comfort zone while for many it's a simple thing they do frequently. The both of us worked together overcame obstacles and the event was a success. It caused stress and we bonded from it.

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It doesn't need to be outdoor high adventure.
Actually with all the barriers outside I can see why you would suggest an inside adventure but, honestly i think my chances are better outside. Her #1 Rejection line is "I'm not comfortable with that" We haven't so much as read a racy novel together. Cooking a large meal is relaxing to me. And outside of family We couldn't put together 100 friends.

I'll have to stretch my imagination more. Looks like we might achieve a waterfall this year. My bet is that she will chicken out at the half way up point.

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Actually with all the barriers outside I can see why you would suggest an inside adventure but, honestly i think my chances are better outside. Her #1 Rejection line is "I'm not comfortable with that" We haven't so much as read a racy novel together. Cooking a large meal is relaxing to me. And outside of family We couldn't put together 100 friends.

I'll have to stretch my imagination more. Looks like we might achieve a waterfall this year. My bet is that she will chicken out at the half way up point.

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Good luck with the waterfall!

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Well I shoot rifles she prefers handguns. I kayak she gets seasick in a teacup. I'm taking up hiking, she has a 1 mile limit. She likes lighthouses and waterfalls but is afraid of heights. The last 6 years I have been doing so much camping with my son that she and I hardly do anything outdoors together.

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Short hike to a waterfall? Camping or "glamping" in a pretty location(place with bathrooms/showers/some amenities)? White water rafting on a low stage(stage 2?) river?

I love waterfalls too and my husband and I tried to do as many waterfall hikes as we could(surprisingly there are many in SoCal). It was a lot of fun and most were not difficult hikes at all. I'd find a short hike where the end location is at the bottom of the falls looking up at the beauty. I love water in general, so hikes along a stream, lake, or the ocean are really nice.

I also love camping at the beach, where they have the bathrooms/showers(not so much a fan of squatting behind a bush anymore).
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We did a short hike to Swallow Falls Maryland last year. It was fun and only a mile after which we had some ice cream from a local vendor. Very nice day.

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I think they will have fun.

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Hubs' idea, that I loved the sound of, was for us to take it in turns to plan and book a trip, then simply tell the other when it will be and what type of weather to pack for. Could be a simple, local weekend away or something further from home. Well, I eagerly said I'd book the first one. He is hanging for a vacation. I told him I'd have it covered.

I have a destination in mind. This is a place he's been wanting to go. I'm excited about it too. What I'm finding though, is how much we'd normally share together about where we'd be going and what we'd be doing. I'm currently feeling in two minds as the excitement leading up to the trip is part of the experience shared! I'm realizing that I'll not only need to have a good (enough) understanding of the culture for both of us but I'm also considering taking a beginners language class to get us by... which feels strange when we'd normally do this together.

Still, I'm excited at the thought of pulling it off for us and willing to give it a try and see how it feels planning it solo. He's normally the one that researches everything in detail, whereas I'm more the one to wing-it, but I think for this trip I owe it to us to be more prepared than is my usual style. It's had me wondering if I'm normally able to wing-it because in the back of my mind, I know he'll have other details covered if needed. It's an interesting mini-experiment!

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Actually with all the barriers outside I can see why you would suggest an inside adventure but, honestly i think my chances are better outside. Her #1 Rejection line is "I'm not comfortable with that" We haven't so much as read a racy novel together. Cooking a large meal is relaxing to me. And outside of family We couldn't put together 100 friends.

I'll have to stretch my imagination more. Looks like we might achieve a waterfall this year. My bet is that she will chicken out at the half way up point.

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Has she always been this way? What is she comfortable with? Any chance you could enjoy something together that's within her comfort zone and then add a little sprinkle of something to different to that?

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