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post #16 of 19 (permalink) Old 05-15-2015, 04:51 PM
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Re: BUSY PARENTS: How do YOU keep the fire burning

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I walk in the door.
Grab my wife. Smell her hair and tell her she smells like the most precious thing in the world.
Kiss her on the neck.
Hold her for about a minute.
Then I get my glass of tea. We sit down and talk for about 10 minutes. Then we start the nightly routine of what must get done.
When that is through we sit down and talk/half watch tv, but mostly talk.
While discussing other things one of us will look at the other one and say "Have I ever told you how much I love you?" or something equally cheesy.

I love this.


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Re: BUSY PARENTS: How do YOU keep the fire burning

This has been a huge challenge for my wife and I with 3 kids (7, 5, almost 2). In particular the 2 yr old daughter has given us a run for our money these past two years, but i think we are slowly starting to come out of the dungeon ...

Fortunately we have never had issues with the fire burning, just finding time to put it to good use. We still actually like each other, physical attraction has never been a problem, our personalities compliment each other nicely (Or as I like to think of it, I am just an all around easy guy to get along with ), and we work well together as a team. Currently, finding time alone together though has been rather difficult, and we are somewhat limited in our options. During the week I am out of the house from 5am-7pm. On Saturdays my two son's have sports (4 games between them of which I coach 3) so even though I am off from work I spend much of Saturday away from home and my wife.

During the week it is usually hit or miss how much time together we can get (depends on when we get our daughter to sleep which can be anywhere b/w 9-10:30pm). I usually try to make it a point though to spend at least a few minutes before we go to bed curled up watching tv. If I find myself falling asleep in bed while waiting for my wife to come in from putting our daughter to sleep, I will actually spread myself out across the entire bed so she has to wake me up in order to get in lol.

Also, in the past I would usually take days off from work when the kids were home from school. Now I try to do the opposite, take a day here and there when all the kids are at school so my wife and I can have alone time, which translates into bedroom activities followed by a lunch date

Right now though I find it is more important to do the little things to stay connected (a surprise kiss, hugs, quick massages, etc...)
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After a long day at work it may be difficult for some of us to think of doing something meaningful for our relationship.

How do YOU keep the fire burning?

What do you do to (re)connect in spite of busy schedules? I don't mean expensive vacations... I mean what you do at home, every day?

Thank you!
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We have breakfast together every morning. Keep in mind at 0700 I drop our daughter at school and return home for breakfast with my W. At that time(we are alone), I hold, kiss and talk with my W over breakfast. Our eldest daughter lives at home and goes to the local college.

During the day we text(sext) often. We do this everyday. It keeps your engine warm if you catch my drift.

Dinner is together. I help cook or do all the cleaning. Depends. Sometimes on the way home I grab flowers. Flowers go a long way! I will leave notes around for her to find.

After all is done we retire to the bedroom and watch TV. At this time the days sexting leads to good times.

We rinse and repeat this all week. Sex is 3-4 times per week.

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Re: BUSY PARENTS: How do YOU keep the fire burning

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After a long day at work it may be difficult for some of us to think of doing something meaningful for our relationship.

How do YOU keep the fire burning?

What do you do to (re)connect in spite of busy schedules? I don't mean expensive vacations... I mean what you do at home, every day?

Thank you!

At risk of sounding like a lush... we have a drink together and dish about the day and give each other space to get it out. Then we move on with our conversation to better things.
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