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Marriage- One Word

If you had just one word to define marriage, what would it be- and why?

For me the word is "secret".

To me, marriage is a giant secret. One kept between 2 people. Your sex life is a secret. Your financial concerns is a secret. Your pillow talk at night is a secret. Your goals, hopes and dreams is a secret. And so forth...

Now, to be sure, people are allowed glimpses here and there but I have always felt that this big secret is one of the main things that can keep 2 people united.


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Compromise.

Virginia: "Why can't you kids leave well enough alone? Everything was fine until you started digging around."

Burt: "You sound like a Scooby Doo villain."
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It's about each spouse creating an environment and life that meets each others needs. When my needs are met and my wife's needs are met I feel fulfilled. That is what marriage is to me.

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If you had just one word to define marriage, what would it be- and why?

For me the word is "secret".

To me, marriage is a giant secret. One kept between 2 people. Your sex life is a secret. Your financial concerns is a secret. Your pillow talk at night is a secret. Your goals, hopes and dreams is a secret. And so forth...

Now, to be sure, people are allowed glimpses here and there but I have always felt that this big secret is one of the main things that can keep 2 people united.
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Do you think that men and women would define that word in a marriage differently?

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Assurance.

I say assurance because as we grow older I'm certain that both my W and I are confident we will be there for each other. Both of our parents have passed. We are and do sometimes effectively feel alone and have no one to fall back on other than each other. Each day, decisions made, are our own. Right or wrong, we can be confident one will look after and lift up the other.

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Commitment.

Because let's be honest--every marriage goes through unemployment, illness, losses or family deaths, fights, etc. But what makes a marriage is if you COMMIT to treating your spouse in a loving way despite all that stuff that happens. Even the "I didn't sign up for this!" stuff.

It is a choice. It is an action. It is a decision. I COMMIT to being a loving person.

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