Raising my hand to also say.. didn't see anything wrong with your post Technovelist.. she could have jumped into the conversation .... I don't really get it. It didn't sound like you or the guest snubbed her.. did you?
Look ...I am MORE EMOTIONAL over my Husband ..It doesn't offend me when men suggest such things.. I see it play out that way in my own marriage.. (example below)...
On temperament tests... I am more of a THINKER/Logical over a FEELER in comparison to him ...I teeter in the middle... he is always a FEELER ...(just as Technovelist's wife is a INTJ...T
for thinking/ logical)
..but I'm still a woman!
When I get out of hand.. one thing good is.. if he calls me out - tells me I am being a bi*ch.. (Oh it's rare but it's happened)...I'll AGREE WITH HIM...on the spot !
We have a funny way.. if I get too pushy, a little bossy (gotta watch that!).. he will throw out the
to me.. he knows I HATE THAT.... as I do Care how he feels... I WANT US ON THE SAME PAGE, or I am bothered.. I'll give him a look, then go over...lightly pound on his chest saying ..."NO...NO... don't say that - darn it!
"...he'll grab me.. and we'll banter it out a little.. I want him to feel Respected.. he has earned it & then some!!
I think so highly of my husband...that I KNOW if he has an opinion of me PUSHING LIMITS.. well.. I darn well AM ...and I better adjust my attitude!
We have been together since dirt / he taught me to drive at age 16, he's always been there...through it all....he's brightened my life & has had more of a good influence on me & my outlook over any other...
I've always found being with him "easy".. "free flowing"... my comfort... my ROCK.... I love having a man beside me...he's the Best friend I've ever had...
This past week.. we had a "stressed for time" situation .. getting ready for a family Vacation...(9 of us.. 6 hr drive)... could be the last time we all get together with 2nd son going off to college....planned on taking our Suburban (9 seat belts).. we haven't had it too long...been running perfectly...anyway..
He gets up to go to work on Sat morning... NO BRAKES...
we are leaving 5 am Monday.... he only had THAT NIGHT to change the brake line.. (he worked Sunday too).... #1
no one is open but the airport to rent a car ... #2
would've had to rent one of those 12 seater vans, very hard to come by.. price for 4 days with collision $1,400! (I called)...
Of course it had to start raining too... then while under there, it seemed we had a bad Transmission leak ... at this point.. I am freaking out.. (ME.. the woman, getting Emotional !)... telling him I am so sorry .... I should have rented a car...da** it ....I was FLUSTERED.. he was having difficulty with the brake line...having to run back to the store, had the wrong size, modifying things.. I just wanted to cancel the trip.. I started to cry.. too nervous about taking our 2 older cars, what if one of those broke down.. a minivan is too small for us......I was feeling so bad for him -all this work.. pressured for time....then we'd loose money...maybe a lot.. bla bla bla....
My dear husband.. I walk in the house, calling the resort .... telling them the "pickle" we're in with this many people & getting there....he comes in after me.. he doesn't want that... we'll make it work...the kids are looking forward to it.. if it takes him all night.. whatever... he just wouldn't let me do that -we were going!
His love for the family, putting us FIRST.. it's ALWAYS ALWAYS been his way.. he worked on that from the moment he got home till 10:30 that night ...rolling out from under the car, had the wrong size line, back to the auto parts store.. mishaps here & there .. I was there with the umbrella..we were a sight... but he got it done ! And we made that trip.. had a wonderful time.
That's my husband ! I felt this overwhelming admiration
for him while he was laying under that truck, brake fluid squirting all over him.. for his determination, his attitude....his sheer will...never complained
.. BUT I DID ! God bless him for putting up with me !!.... See I am the emotional woman..
I get more stressed /antsy when things go wrong... he is / has always been ...my calm breeze ...he always makes it right..