Re: If you had it to do all over again...
I'm one that would say definitely NOT. I made a mistake marrying her as we brought some issues that were not solve prior, into the marriage..... and we really never "clicked". There was no honeymoon stage and no wild infatuation and outstanding sex to start with... but it was "ok".
However, after 42 years, we did learn to care and love each other, and enjoyed a LOT of good ties together. She was very willing to do what I wanted, but I was very careful with doing things that I though she would like, and for the most part... worked.
However, sex was fair at best and never got to the point that I expected it... HUGE disappointment. And she had a few habits that I absolutely hated... like smoking, and she just never quit. On that alone we should have never been married. She also drank too much and eventually brought us to divorce. However, she solved that and we're back together, and partly because neither one of us wanted to enter the dating field at our age and we really did know each other.
We did have a wonderful kid that turned out great, and that was well worth it.
We do sincerely care for each other and are honest with each other and we are "known" quantities. We get along quite well, but could just a well be room mates. The excitement and passion that I've always wanted was never there..... however, came close.
No, I'd not do it again.